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Old 01-22-2013, 08:05 PM
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what do you say to a kindergartener you are retaining?

I am probably going to be retaining one of my students. He is the sweetest boy but not developmentally ready for first grade next year. I know he's going to be wondering why he wont be going with his classmates to the first grade. This is my first time retaining a student so I'm not sure what reason to give him. I'm sure his parents will be wondering what they should say to him as well.

What do you say to a student you are retaining?
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Old 01-23-2013, 11:05 AM
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Do you talk about data and objectives (standards) with the students in the classroom? I have a student that I may retain (working with other specialists). I would plan to talk with the student about how staying in K will help him to have the time to learn all his letters and sounds (or whatever your student struggles with). He'll be an expert because he'll already know the routines, building, and people.
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Old 01-23-2013, 12:09 PM
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I retained 2 last year who were very young and immature.

Whenever kids mentioned that these 2 didn't know or couldn't do things the rest of the class could do, I just told them that they are littler and are still learning and that's ok.

We knew by december we'd hold them back, so we started telling them and the rest of the class that they'd get to stay in Kindergarten again. The PreK visited our room a lot at the end of the year, so they got to interact with their new classmates a lot.

It really wasn't a problem. One of the retainees ended up moving, but the other is doing way better this year.
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Old 02-06-2013, 06:08 PM
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While this may not work for your situation, I tell the student (in private) that I sometimes need a special helper to come back with me next year. I explain that the new students will not know where things are or how we do certain things and that I would love for him/her to come back and help me with these things.
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Old 02-06-2013, 06:14 PM
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It's the parents that I'm worried about! They don't understand!
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Old 02-06-2013, 08:49 PM
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This is kind of old school, but my daughter's K teacher "picked" a stick of one lucky kid who got to stay in kindergarten with her again. Just last year, when my daughter was in fifth grade, she finally told me that she and her friend were just SURE they were going to be picked. She was asking her sister at the end of the year who was the lucky one chosen. Apparently it was legendary among Mrs. S's former students.

Yeah, no one is going to like that method, I know. But it sure worked.
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Old 02-06-2013, 09:59 PM
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We knew by december we'd hold them back, so we started telling them and the rest of the class that they'd get to stay in Kindergarten again. The PreK visited our room a lot at the end of the year, so they got to interact with their new classmates a lot.


Why on earth would you tell the rest of the class? They have no need to know, and by next school year they won't remember who's supposed to be here and who isn't. Not to mention the privacy concerns.

As far as telling the student, when I retain a first grader, I leave that to the parents over the summer or I break it to them at the very end of school.

One thing about retaining kids in K-1 is that it does not hold near the stigma hat retention has in older grades. A few years ago, I had two boys who had been retained in first. They bragged about all the stuff they had already done with their "other first grade teacher" and the fact that they were older than the rest of the kids.
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Old 02-06-2013, 11:36 PM
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I had a kindergarten student brag about having already done something I was preparing the class for...they don't fully understand, if at all, this whole holding back business. That said, I'm a big fan of the truth so I would tell the student he needed more time to learn X, Y, and Z.
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Old 02-07-2013, 05:06 PM
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Why on earth would you tell the rest of the class? They have no need to know, and by next school year they won't remember who's supposed to be here and who isn't. Not to mention the privacy concerns.
They remember & they know. One of my own children's classmates was retained in Kindergarten, because according to my child (I don't remember which one), she didn't know anything. When they went to middle school it was discussed again.
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Old 02-09-2013, 07:55 AM
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I don't tell the kids. I usually ask the parents how they would like to handle it. Usually the parents will tell their child over the summer. If the parents want the schools help we will, but the guidance counselor handles it. she meets with the kids and talks about it with them (she is wonderful). I would never tell the rest of my kids that a certain child is being retained, just as I would not tell the class who was the smartest child in the room. Sure, the kids know who is bright and who is behind, but I am not going to encourage more dscussion about the situation. In our district children being retained are put in different homerooms the following year. Therefore, the kids that are being retained still go to a different room when they spend a second year in K.

I always find it funny that when I teach a retained child that he/she always brings up how he remembers doing that last year in kindergarten. They have no hesitation telling their new classmates that they were in kindergarten last year. The other kids in the class rarely comment on it as well. It really is the parents that have issues with retention, not he kids.
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