Respect, as stated before, isn't given, it's earned. That said, we've only talked about half the equation. You also need to respect THEM. That starts by knowing who they are. If they think you don't care, then they won't care. If they think you think they're somehow "less", they'll give you exactly what they think you expect. None of the negative has to be true, they just have to think that. I worked with some of the toughest kids in a large, gang infested, drug ridden, violent city, and the same kids who would move heaven and earth for me would (and did) tell another teacher to "shove a broomstick up your *blank and go....." I think you can fill in the rest. It's a lot of work, but it can be done.