You Can't Please Everyone!

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  1. YoungTeacherGuy

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    As a first year administrator, I've come to terms with the fact that no matter how hard I work, I'll never be able to please 100% of my staff.

    I had to have a difficult conversation with a teacher recently. I ended the conversation with the following sentences: "We have to do what's best for our kids. Are you asking me to do what's easier for YOU? Keep in mind that what's most convenient for US isn't always in the best interest of our students!"

    As per usual, I was very calm and professional. I think I got my point across, though.
     
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    That stinks... but way to stay professional...
     
  4. 2ndTimeAround

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    good for you staying professional.

    But as a first year administrator, please keep in mind that just because it is better for a child, doesn't mean it is reasonable to request of a teacher. Teachers are people too and deserve consideration.

    For instance, I knew a student that claimed he needed one-on-one tutoring every day in order to keep up with information. He said that he got too distracted during class and wanted to have his History teacher teach him before school, alone, so he could have a jumpstart on the material. A first year administrator in the school promised the student and parent that his teacher would devote her prep time before school to him every day. The admin said the same thing you did - we need to do what is best for the child, not what is easiest for the teacher.

    That was incredibly disrespectful towards the teacher.
     
  5. YoungTeacherGuy

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    I have to be certain to closely follow the Master Agreement. Our teachers' union is incredibly vocal and quite strong--so as administrators, we have to be certain that we don't request anything unreasonable.
     
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    That's why I could never be an administrator-I'm too much of a people pleaser!
     
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    Sounds like you're doing a great job! :)
     
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    It sounds like you've caught on quickly to the amazing balancing act administrators must do. The more leadership classes I take, the more I realize that I do not want to be an actual principal. You folks have it rough!
     
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    My hat's off to you as well, I could never make it as an administrator-I'd end up on the news! ;)

    The fact that you can't please everyone is the first real lesson I learned in teaching-I think it's important to realize that.
     
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    "The best interest of the student" can be an overused phrase for justifying a myriad of requests. I'm not saying that you, personally, are throwing it around. However, sometimes the phrase is even uttered in situations irrelevant to the students.
     
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    I agree that what you said was profesional and I'm totally not knocking your roll as VP, but can I just remind you that you were a teacher before you were the boss. Please keep in mind your experiences as a teacher and your new roll as an admin.
     
  12. a2z

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    Yeah, but so can "unreasonable" when someone doesn't want to do something.
     
  13. YoungTeacherGuy

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    Wholeheartedly agreed! :)

    This particular person was trying to get away with a task she knew she was responsible for (related to RtI). Her defense was, "Do you know how time consuming progress monitoring is?" Thankfully, I taught the Tier III kids during RtI, so my answer was YES!

    However, as you all know--if we don't progress monitor our intensive kids, we'll never know whether or not they're making growth and responding to the services we're providing. The results of the progress monitoring scores can be used when referring a child to the Student Study Team or when exiting a student from Tier III intervention.

    I guess I could've added these details to my original post, but I didn't want to include too much info.
     
  14. interpreterchap

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    you handled it well...and you are right its really hard to please everyone especially when they dont know how to appreciate.
     
  15. catnfiddle

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    This is why all administrators should come from some honest teaching stock. You have the empathy of being in the trenches, and you know why it's important for teachers to be there actively. You handled it well, and you handled it like a seasoned teacher who deserves to be guiding other teachers.
     
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    You handled it with professionalism and how I wish more admins would handle situations like this.
     

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