Why am I not excited and sad about my job offer?

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  1. Peachyness

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    Is it my subconscious saying that this job isn't right for me? I was offered a job as a part time homeschool teacher. I know my husband really wants me to get a full time, regular teaching job. So, I guess part of my worry is that he won't be happy. I suppose another worry is that I won't be earning very much money and it kind of stings since I have so many years under my belt.

    If I choose not to take the job, I don't know what to tell the mom. She seemed so excited to have me on board.
     
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    Peachy~I had that same feeling right after I accepted my current position. I think I made a mistake. Not to say that things would have worked out the way I might have hoped had I stayed, but I probably would have had a better chance at it.

    You could always tell the mom that you have had time to think about it and have talked to your husband and that you both think it's in the best interest to continue looking for a full time position.
     
  4. Peachyness

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    Thanks STG. The other thing is I spent so much time and money working on adding a science credential. I think I'm scared to work with secondary students, but at the same time, I spent so much time, money, and effort on this credential that if I take this job, that I will be throwing all of that work away.

    But then, on the other hand, I do like the idea of working part time and with just two kids at a time.

    I don't know....
     
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    It is so hard to make these decisions. I know, I am in the same boat...looking for full-time work, yet wondering if that is right for my family, and should I keep subbing instead, etc.

    I think you have to ask yourself if you would be happy in this job. It is still early in the season to be settling for something you don't really want. If you would honestly jump at a full-time offer, maybe you should consider looking some more. Good luck. I know sometimes it is really hard to figure these things out...you don't have a crystal ball to tell you what will happen. :(
     
  6. Peachyness

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    Thanks Rainbowbird. I do like the idea of a part time job. I had the best part time job for two years at a school as a math resource teacher (had to quit because my husband got an amazing job offer far away). So, I was hoping to get another part time job. I thought I was paid pretty low at my last job, but it was doable. With this job, it's way, way, way low. Sigh.... I just don't like the idea of backing out. I haven't OFFICIALLY said yes, we are meeting again next week. I'm really thinking, though, of just calling the mom asap and letting her know that this isn't for me.

    I just don't know. I'm afraid if I say no, that nothing else will come up and I will regret having said no.
     
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    Peachy... could you just let that mom know that you are interested, but are really trying to find a full time job. That way she knows & if she doesn't find someone/if you don't at least you'll have something to fall back on possibly.

    I think if you backed out without her knowing up front that you are still actively looking she would be more upset.

    It wouldn't be ideal, but at least you both know what is at risk.
     
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    I'm a huge believer in intuition and gut feelings. Sometimes our subconscious minds are aware of something our conscious minds have yet to recognize. If something doesn't feel right, don't do it. Sometimes, I will write down a question (or think it) if I'm really unsure about a decision and just meditate on it for a while and ask to be guided in the right direction. Ask yourself, should I take this job? Usually your first gut answer is the one to go with.
     
  9. Peachyness

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    StudentTeach, I have had to force myself to listen to my gut in the past few years. It typically is right.

    Diznee, at my last interview, mom expressed that she was worried that I wouldn't be interested in the job since it was only part time. I told mom that I was only interested in part time. I think my worry comes from the fact that we have been struggling, financially, lately, and that I know my hubby would feel more comfortable if I pursued a full time job. I'm torn, at the moment, on what I want.

    I feel lost. And sad. I'm still upset that I had to quit my last job to move to this new town with hubby. I loved my last job. It was part time at an actual school district and I taught math to elementary kids. I loved that job and I'm still upset at having to leave it. So, I guess I am just lost, sad, right now. :(
     
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    Just to throw a different perspective out there- when I accepted my current job, I really thought I might be making a mistake. The only reason I took it was that it was late July, and in my home state teachers legally have to say whether they're coming back or not by June 10th so I knew there wouldn't be any new positions opening by then. The city I lived in was so flooded with unemployed teachers that they weren't even hiring subs. I was lifeguarding at a local Y at the time and the thought that I could have spent 4 years in college to get a degree to end up lifeguarding killed me. I was also worried about having references for the job hunt the next year since all my college ones would be a year old at that point. So I took the job even though I had a really bad feeling about it. It was 12,000 miles away. I didn't even really get to celebrate the fact that I got a job because all my friends and family were so upset that I was leaving. I would tell people I got a job and they would be excited, and then I would tell them where it was and they would say "Oh...I'm sorry." When I first got here, it seemed horrible. I was 100% sure I'd made a terrible decision. Believe it or not, it ended up being the best decision I've ever made. I LOVE this job. I have the best coworkers and students and even our admin is pretty good. I love my school. I would have never have guessed that going in.

    How is the job market in your area? It is early in the hiring season...do you think you have a good chance of getting another job offer? I'd really take that into consideration- if you don't take this job and then don't get another offer, would you wish that you had taken this job?
     
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    Peachy, it sounds like your gut feeling is moving you in one direction. Is there any way you could discuss the financial aspect of the job and just let the mom know that you are in a bind and really need more money? If she can't pay more, maybe you should continue the search.
     
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    What are your hours with this job?? Will it be the same hours every day? If so, maybe you could find a part time teaching job in a district. Also, a few districts in my area are hiring for part time teachers to work with students who aren't going to school (sickness, suspensions, etc). You still have some time to find alternatives to suplement your income if needed.
     
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    I think you need to do whatever makes sense logically, financially, and emotionally. Do you have other options? If not, I would go with this. If so, you might want to look at those other options.
     
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    Thanks everyone for your advice. I am definitely going to think this through carefully and weigh my options.

    In regards to the hours, I will work 1 and a half days a week. So, the other days, I could potentially sub or find another job. But, if I only work this job, I would make just a little over $500. (If I had known this info before I applied or even during the interview, I think I may have had backed out early on. Didn't find out until she offered the job.)

    Elementary teaching jobs in this area are pretty much impossible. Someone who used to work for the district office told me that since the schools are so good around here, the only way to get a job is to wait for a teacher to die.
    That said, I am also in the process of obtaining a science credential and I have found three science positions already and I assume more may pop up over the next few months. So, that's why I"m so torn. Once I have my credential, I will have the option of applying for those openings. But, who knows. Maybe each of those science positions receives a ton of applicants. I will talk with hubby who is usually right about things.
     
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    Is that $500 a week or month, Peachy?
     
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    When I started reading this I was thinking you should stick with it... but then you said it's only one and a half days for $500 a month (presumeably). If you live in SoCal there are 0 jobs. If you see actual postings for science, then at least that's better than elementary. The best ways to get a job around here to to know people and get connections. I moved here a couple of years ago and joined a moms club- my connections through there helped me get into a private school at least. Before that job though I was working 1 day a week at a children's museum- I made $300 a month doing that. If I didn't have any kids, I would totally be doing some part time work in something educationally related and get on the sub lists for as many districts as possible. You need to get out there meeting people and get some good references.

    If you take this job I'm sure she'll want you to commit to at least one year~ some part time work place won't care as much if you suddenly get hired somewhere else.

    Here is another question to think about- when you go applying to a district, do you think it will look better to be a home school teacher for 1 1/2 days a week, or subbing/other part time ed. job? I'm not sure if I know the answer to that, but it's something to think about.
     
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    I decided to stick with this job and sub on the other days or get another part time job OR take classes at the college and work on my math authorization OR pursue something totally different. Hubby is on board with whatever will make me happy and whatever will help me obtain a better job in the future.
     
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    If you're only working 1.5 days, you can easily still apply to other part time jobs at school districts too.
     
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    Right. :) And who knows what kind of doors will open with this job. I will be working with these kids primary school (they go to school three days a week) so maybe through that I might make enough connections. Never know. :)
     
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    I've been mulling over this over the weekend and I just feel like calling the mom right now and saying this isn't for me. I feel like throwing up. I couldn't sleep because I am so distraught over what I want.

    Should I take this sure thing, or try to find a better job, and risk not getting anything? I just keep going back and forth. Once I get my science credential, I would think that I would have a better chance of getting a job, but I'm not so certain anymore. It seems really bad out there, right now.

    I have a headache, tired, and nauseous. Why can't I decide on what I want. :(

    Mainly, I feel that I should try to go for a full time teaching job with a much better pay. With my credentials and 6 years of teaching experience, I feel that I should do better.
     

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