What if a teacher does NOT celebrate holidays/birthdays?

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  1. essasiak

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    The only problem I have in becoming a teacher is that I do not celebrate holidays or birthdays, and I would not celebrate with my class. The way I would approach this with the parents is that I would explain my reasoning and then invite them to feel free and organize any parties and whatnot amongst each other [the parents]. I mean I'd still like to have a themed class party, just not celebrating a holiday.
    [and by the way I'm talking about kindergarten/first grade]
    Is that a good way to handle it?
     
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  3. juli233

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    in a first grade class I had last year we had an unbirthday party. One party, a couple of games and snacks and re gift exchange. that's it then all the birthdays are celebrated at once!
     
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    I think that's fine. My co-teacher doesn't celebrate holidays and birthdays. She doesn't if other people do, but she doesn't participate.

    You could have a "winter" class party around Christmas, and a "fall" class party around Halloween. Your Valentine's party could just be a party celebrating positivity, good deeds and the classroom community. If a parent is really going to be stubborn about it, then that child can go to a different classroom for a real "holiday" party. I don't think you'll come up against any opposition, though.
     
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    If you are teaching in a school with multiple classes for a grade level and all other classes celebrate it could be a problem. You could do a fall party on Halloween (don't know how you will deal with the parade if the school has one). A winter party for the Christmas/Hannukah a spring is coming for Valentine's Day. I tend to just have the parents come in and set up the parties and not worry about it. You also might have a special hour of choice time and be done with it. Birthdays, I think you will be stuck with if you work at a school with lots of parent support in the early grades-moms will just show up cupcakes in hand. It would be a headache and a half to send mom home without the children getting to celebrate or at least eat the treats. If you are the only class for that grade level it will be easier to set the limits. I am not a celebrator of much; however at my school I would not even consider not allowing the children and families to engage in celebrating the different days, it would stand out quite clearly.

    I would not try and encourage the parents to throw the party between themselves because you might have little delight who no one wants to invite and little no show whose parents won't let them go which could cause strife and hurt feelings. The result then can be blamed on you.
     
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    We celebrate 2 holidays at my school: Thanksgiving which is a whole school We Give Thanks Lunch & most classrooms celebrate Valentine's Day. No candy either.
     
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    So what would you do if a parent wanted to send in cupcakes for his/her child's bday snack?
     
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    I've sent the cupcakes home before. We do not allow cupcakes, chips, or candy. This is a school policy.

    Last year we had parents of twins, in 2 different classrooms make 72 cupcakes for 50 students we didn't allow her to serve them. At recess the parents did face painting. I remember juice too, so she may have brought in other food as well.

    I just reminded them of the school policy, they weren't happy about wasting the money, but if they would have said something before the big day, we would have reminded her of the school policy.

    I do fruit, veggies, yogurt, muffins for special snacks. The parents have a harder time with it then the kids do!
     
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    My school allows bday treats. What would the op do in such a situation?
     
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    Birthdays and holidays are a VERY big deal to most children. I have a student who reminds me daily that it's almost her birthday. Her birthday is in April. Most children enjoy bringing in a birthday treat. Also, my school requires classrooms to have 3 celebrations each year: fall, winter, and Valentine's Day. All grade levels participate in a classroom party. Children who do not celebrate go to the library. Perhaps you could have a staff member cover your classroom for celebration times, while you supervise other children that share your beliefs.

    Birthday and holiday celebrations at school are some of my fondest childhood memories from my elementary days. Call me mean, but I would be an unhappy parent if my child's teacher told me that these things were not happening in the classroom because of the teacher's personal beliefs. If the majority of the class did not believe in celebrations, that would be one thing, but that usually isn't the case. I guess I just don't think it's fair for them to miss out. If you don't want to plan the activities, you could recruit a parent volunteer.
     
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    "I've sent the cupcakes home before. We do not allow cupcakes, chips, or candy. This is a school policy."

    If it is a school policy it is a very different question than one teacher out of 24 sending home the cupcakes or treats.
     
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    I don't do holiday-related celebrations in my class (not because of any belief of mine, but because students often don't share the same beliefs). Technically, according to school policy, we are only allowed 2 "parties" every year-one in December and one for the end-of-the-year.

    One thought I did have though is what would you do in the case that a child brought a holiday gift for you-especially if you are planning on teaching the young ones.
     
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    I dont celebrate Hanukkah, or Diwali, or lunar new year or a whole lot of other things my students celebrate, believe in, and enjoy as part of their family religions, culture and traditions. Personally, I love learning about and celebrating with others. If celebrations are in conflict with your personal beliefs, you will need to find a way to respect the traditions of others (perhaps having another teacher cover your class celebrations as described above) while balancing school culture and personal beliefs. Good luck to you.
     
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    My question to the OP would be, can the students still bring in treats? Can you step out of the room for a few minutes while the class sings happy birthday & then come back in? This may mean having someone cover the class for those few minutes.

    I think that would have to be a situation with full principal support.
     
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    Here's something I don't like: My district has no policy regarding parents bringing in treats for birthdays. Therefore, if a parent wants to bring in a treat, they need to call the office, one of the secretaries emails the teacher to see if they approve/disapprove of the parent sending in a treat, and then the secretary calls the parent back. So it's teacher discretion.

    Unfortunately, we have one teacher who says "yes" or "no" based on whether or not she likes that particular student! Can you believe that? :dizzy:

    I tell the secretaries that there's no need to call/email me to get a yes or no. The answer is always yes. All I ask is that they let me know what time the parents plans to arrive so I can make sure I'm not in the middle of a lesson.
     
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    I'm of a different religious faith than some of my students but I don't have a specific belief that would prevent me from having classroom celebrations.
    I don't personally celebrate for example, Christmas but many of my close friends do so I do make an effort to get them a gift etc and they always do the same for Muslim holidays etc. I guess even if there were holidays that I wouldn't celebrate myself due to personal beliefs, I wouldn't let that influence my teaching or whether or not kids have parties etc.

    At my school some teachers have opted for a healthy birthday treat policy. My policy is, you only turn 6 once so whatever, bring in cupcakes and have fun for the last 15 minutes of the day.
     
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    I think that it would be very difficult to not celebrate birthdays at all with Kindergarten and 1st graders. I have had 1st graders come up and tell me that it is only 5 months to their birthday, and I only see them on the playground as I am not a 1st grade teacher. Birthdays are so important to children at that age.

    I am not saying it is impossible, but if it is so important to you to not celebrate birthdays or holidays, it might be easier to switch to an older grade such as 4th or 5th.
     
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    Come up with a few great lessons that you could teach in other classrooms, and then tell other teachers you will take their classes if they will run your parties. Don't take the fun out of their lives.
     
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    Wow! A discriminating teacher?!?
    She better get her act together! There is no room in education for such nonsense. Can you imagine what else she can do to children that she CHOOSES to DISLIKE behind closed doors? She can do a lot of mental damage to these children.
    Someone needs to make her see the light!:hugs:
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    Unfortunately, I can believe it.
     
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    I believe birthday celebrations should stay at home. I think school Valentines parties are strange. I really dislike when teachers require students to bring in a boy or girl gift worth a certain dollar amount for gift-giving at Christmas.

    I've never been in a school that would require you to host a certain number of parties per year.

    Certainly don't let this stop you from becoming a teacher.
     

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