Two new teachers having improper relationships.

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  1. lucybelle

    lucybelle Connoisseur

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    Is that real information? That's pretty **** interesting!

    (Okay this is super off topic but since it's already going there- I remember getting hit on by a guy in his 40's or 50's when I was maybe 17 years old. I was so grossed out, I couldn't believe it!)

    A little more on topic- I have some students in my 8th grade class that look really old. I have one kid who could hands down pass for 18 or even 20. When I first saw him I looked up his age, and the kid is 14! My first year teaching I had a 19 year old kid who looked way older than that. So I guess I could see a teacher getting caught up in something, if they're MORONS.
     
  2. miss-m

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    This. I was SO freaked out the first time I subbed middle school because they look so much older than they really are! I'm 23, and I look young for my age, but when MIDDLE SCHOOLERS look older than me?
    Not trying to justify it because regardless of how old they look, they are still KIDS, but they definitely look way older than they actually are.
     
  3. Ima Teacher

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    I've been my current height (5'7") since I was 12, so I looked older. I was only 17 my first two semesters of college.

    I'm 44 and like guys in their mid to late 30's. Youngest I went on a date with was 23. I was 43. He thought I was 30.
     
  4. bros

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    It looks like a chart that the site OKCupid might produce - they usually base it off a sample size of 2000-5000 people, based on what kind of people they select through the random quickmatch tool.
     
  5. BioAngel

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    I haven't dealt with any teachers in my schools having inappropriate relationships with students, but I have dealt with:

    1) Being laid off for low enrollment an after they rehired a teacher that use to work at the school and was well-liked. Turns out he was a pedophile with a ton of porn of children on his SCHOOL computer.(I think that's karma for getting rid of me- a new teacher who was trying really hard.)

    2) The vice principal (who was married) definitely having something going on with the bobblehead pretty teacher (who was single). The P even told them to knock it off and they completely did NOT care. They were voted as the cutest couple by students. Thankfully BOTH of them left "all of a sudden" during the summer. (The female teacher is the kind of person I have avoided since I was little- cared more about her looks, she was totally fake, and has outright told children that they are bad/evil and teased them. I'm sooooo glad she's gone. The guy was to stupid to realize how unprofessional he was being as an administrator.)
     
  6. callmebob

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    No I dont see that as insulting. We all peak at some point, that doesn't mean the other ages are unattractive, just not as attractive as our peak ages. My point was there is a difference between not being at your peak and being unattractive.
     
  7. txmomteacher2

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    I get there are people who are attracted to younger aged people. But you should have enough brains between your ears not go trolling your job for your next boyfriend. High school, middle school aged boys have nothing im attracted to in anyway shape or form. Yes I think some are very handsome but I still don't want to date them. My best friend is quite a bit younger than me. When we go out together the men she finds attractive are age appropriate for her but I would never even look twice at most of them becaue they are just too young for me.
     
  8. txmomteacher2

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    Instead of saying that I don't find anyone under the age of 30 attractive I should have said that I don't find myself attracted to anyone under the age of 30.
     
  9. CTSpaEngTeach

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    EXACTLY! I don't understand it!! Why would anyone want to risk their future (not to mention the sanity and emotional health of a youngster) in order to have any kind of relationship with a student?

    It also makes me particularly mad whenever I hear of men doing this, because as a male, I already have to combat some societal attitudes that work against me; we all know that if a female teacher is hugged by a first grader, nobody will think anything of it and they will, in fact, think it's cute and go "Aww!," but people tend to look "weird" at you if you are a dude and let any of your first graders hug you. It's just the way society looks at men. So, whenever any of these perverts actually gets inappropriately involved with a student, it gives some people the ammo to justify their own anti-male-teachers prejudice.
     
  10. Ms.Holyoke

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    In my high school, there were several teachers who dated teachers and even an administrator who dated a teacher. I never found anything wrong with that!
     
  11. Reality Check

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    On top of which, around here anyhow, it seems to happen with teachers in districts I would KILL to get into.

    It also seems to involve, by percentage, FAR MORE younger teachers (20s, 30s, under-40)......who you would THINK are at the peak of their dating careers and would be naturally attracted to each other, rather than students.


    :dunno:
     
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    You are the exact opposite of me. I prefer older men. My boyfriend is 22 years older than me, but he's of the "perfect-for-me" type.
     
  13. catnfiddle

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    Only time that I was a student and attracted to a teacher, I kept my mouth shut until I was out of college. By then, the teacher and I had become good friends, close enough that I realized that was all we should be. He had been high school classmates with my father, so that would have been REALLY awkward, so I'm glad he's still a friend.
     
  14. Ms. I

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    I can't believe a teacher would risk their education, sweat, & tears to actually act on feelings for a studenet when they know they'll get caught eventually, lose their jobs, wreck their own marriage/family, their reputation, PLUS be in trouble with the law, PLUS have a dismal future! Why, why, why??!! :mad:

    They might be book-smart, but their common sense is down the toilet.
     
  15. WarriorPrncss

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    I see this as the opposite-- teaching attracts those types because they're around children and think they won't get caught.

    I use to work at a church and attended a 20s "youth" group. One of my co-workers also attended this group. He appeared to be a nice, great, and fun guy.... until we saw him on the news for filming his teenage band students while they were changing...

    HUGE shock. Though... he didn't deny the taping and production and possession of these videos-- he admitted to having a problem, that's not going to help him.

    I always thought "How could people NOT know someone close to them is--- whatever".... and I now know. Sometimes they hide it REALLY well.

    If you're in California you've probably seen him on the news in past months...
     

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