Teacher getting my name wrong

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  1. waterfall

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    Many of the specialists at my school go by Miss/Mr. firstname. However, that always felt a little too preschool for me, and I want the students to think of me as just any other teacher in my specific position, not as a "specialist" that does something else. So understandably, one of the teachers at the beginning of last year kept calling me Miss firstname. I had to correct him several times. However, the one student I had in his class moved out just a few weeks into the school year, so it was really no longer relevant- there just weren't situations where he'd use my "teacher name." However, this year I have several students in his class, and he has again been calling me Miss firstname. Again, I've corrected him several times and even explained the reasoning behind it, but he doesn't seem to remember. I'm going on a field trip with his class next week. Would you just let it go, or how can I handle this? I feel so rude constantly correcting...but I don't want the students in his class to know me by a different name than everyone else.
     
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    "Yo!"

    Strange. At least he doesn't go "Yo! Teach!". A proactive principal should address "nuts and bolts" stuff like how to address staff at first staff meeting. Perhaps you could put a word in to Admin' as it may be a problem for others as well?

    I recall several instances where students would approach a teacher they didn't know (yard;hall), "Teacher, that boy/girl is bothering me!" To which the teacher would start reply with, "My name is Mr./Mrs./Miss Soandso not Teacher!", in a sort of glare and tone which was less than pleasant. Later, the same teachers who demanded respect would instruct students to go ask the "yard duty" or "cafeteria lady" or "custodian" for help with some problem. Evidently, for them, it is more a case of "Do what I say not what I do".
     
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    Is he really "forgetting" or just being a jerk? He's an adult. That conversation should have only happened once. Maybe he feels a certain way towards the specialists. Like you are to be called by the first name and the homeroom teachers are to be called by something else (and that's just the way HE feels it should be.) Either way, he's not showing you respect and it sounds deliberate. If it's not deliberate, then maybe he's an idiot!! Don't stress about it. Just keep correcting him. Demand the respect you deserve.
     
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    I'm confused. What are you wanting to be called? MissLastName? What does the teacher call himself? Is it the same?
     
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    I agree with SuperFudge. How could he actually forget that? One conversation would be enough to correct it, and the fact that he still "forgets" all the time, after continuously being reminded, suggests that it is intentional, not accidental.
     
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    Maybe you should give him the "firm tone and glance" once. :) I am not sure how he's forgetting that seems like a very simple fix. It's not like going from last name to first name. It's simply dropping the "Miss/Mrs." It's strange.
     
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    I can't see how he could keep forgetting. This dude needs to grow up and respect your wishes about what you'd like to be called.
     
  9. Caesar753

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    Do I have it right? Your name is Sally Jazzhands. He calls you Miss Sally, but you want to be called Miss/Ms. Jazzhands.

    It seems like he should have figured out by now what you want to be called. If he's continuing to do it, he's either extremely forgetful or he's being a jerk. If it were me, and I'd already explained myself, I'd just continue correcting him. If he gets offended about constant corrections, he should go ahead and learn your name.

    I wouldn't involve admin because I don't think it's a big enough issue to do that.
     
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    I think any adult in the school should be called by their last name. I understand some that are not teachers choose not to, but anyone who works directly with the kids should be. As far as I am concerned, when students have tried to call me by my first name, leaving out the mr., I tell them once that they will recieve detention if it happens again in a very firm no nonsense way. I would say that to this guy. You expect to be called ms. last name and anything else is unacceptable, the students will recieve a consequence if they do not follow suit, so do not encourage.
     
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    You can't really give detention to the other teacher. I don't think that would be a very meaningful threat.
     
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    I agree with what everyone has said, but I would also make sure you make it very clear to the students in his class that they should call you Miss LastName. Maybe if they're constantly calling you that around him he might catch on- or maybe they'll even start correcting him when he does it! Worst comes to worst, at least the kids will be calling you by the proper name.

    My first name is a mystery to my students and I like it that way! lol
     
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    I think I would start calling him Mr. First Name.
     
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    No, but his using the first name that way makes it seem as if students can do it. He needs to know that is not acceptable for students and what the result will be for them. If he can respect that she does not want it said in front of them that way, and after multiple times asking, then a very I'm gonna shove it down your throat if you don't do it right talk needs to happen. Just the way I would handle it if it went that far, but I don't ever see having an issue like that with a teacher.
     
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    I think this is a really great idea. :haha:
     
  16. waterfall

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    Haha, thanks for the ideas. To clear up some confusion, he was calling me Miss firstname. It's understandable that he did this in the beginning, because all of our other specialists (the SLP, psych, OT, counselor, and PT) go by Miss/Mr. firstname. I also believe the special ed teacher that had this position before me went by Miss firstname. I would like to be called Miss lastname. We do have a couple regular ed teachers that go by Miss firstname too, but like I said it's just too preschool-ish for me. Honestly he's a really nice guy and I've never had any other problems with him- I don't think it's anything like seeing the specialists a certain way. I think it was just confusing because that's what all the other specialists go by. Well, I ended up doing this big activity with his class yesterday, and some of my students kept yelling at him when he said my first name. He apologized and said he was just so used to it he kept forgetting, and then let the kids come up with a "consequence" for him. They ended up telling him he had to do 10 push ups every time he called me the wrong name. He ended up doing it twice and the kids LOVED calling him out on it. I don't think it will be an issue in the future because they're simply not going to let him forget it. As for simply knowing what my first name is, that doesn't really bother me because our first and last names are right on our door name plates anyway, so the students would already know my first name. I just prefer they don't call me by it.
     
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    That's what I love about kids! They'll do your dirty work for you sometimes and it's great!!! My principal promised my students that she was going to watch a project and she didn't come. She told me that she forgot and it honestly REALLY upset me because I was so proud of the kids' work. WELL...the next time she visited my class after that, the kids were asking, "Where were you!?!? You were supposed to see our project!" I don't let them talk to adult disrespectfully, but I did secretly LOVED that they said what I so badly wanted to say!!!
     
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    Trust the kids to say what's on their minds! I love that he had to do push-ups. Kids love that type of thing.
     
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    He must be an old guy like me who forgets. I do two schools now so I have to remember all the kids names as I teach them all.
    Sometimes when I keep messing up a kids name I will tell them "If I do it again you can hit me"
    They give me the funniest looks.
     
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    [FONT=""][COLOR=""][SIZE=""]I love the push ups too. I'm glad it had a great outcome. I'm also glad that he really seemed to sincerely care that he messed up. I'm sure that made you feel better too.[/SIZE][/COLOR][/FONT]
     

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