Hi, I'm a first grade teacher and have a very challenging student in my class. As a whole, my classroom is a positive environment with clear expectations. The students are doing well and we are building a respectful community. However, I got a new student who I believe has oppositional defiant disorder. His home life is complete chaos (moving from apartment to apartment, evictions, divorce, parents fighting, step siblings are not good role models, his brother takes care of him most of the time, etc.) This explains his behavior. I have empathy for him and understand that he seeks attention and control...I wish I could change his home life. But, school is school and his job is to come ready to learn. His behavior is not only frustrating me, but the other students as well. He's been in school for 11 days and I have already referred him twice to the office for defiance, refusal to follow directions, and general disruption. I can barely get through a whole group lesson. The teacher in me wants ALL students to learn, including my friend. I want him to be part of instruction, but I've had to separate him from the group. These are the behaviors I have seen: Refusal to follow directions Refusal to do partner work (our curriculum calls for a lot of that) Refusal to do work on his own (he is above grade level) Disruption during lessons by turning his back to me, bothering students next to him, making noises, putting his shirt over his head, calling and screaming out, blaming others for his behavior This is what I have done based on my limited knowledge of psychology! Praise him for following directions and being kind and caring. Award him with a ticket. (I am meeting with our social worker this week to design an incentive plan). Give him a daily job. He loves to help. Hook him up with a responsible friend who is a role model. Give him choices of when to follow directions. Example, you can start your work in 10 seconds or do it during recess. Stay consistent with consequences. Work with him one of one when the opportunity arises. Removal from the group when necessary. Ignore his behavior. Call admin for support when needed. Keep his mom updated from time to time, but I am hesitant to reach out to his mom. There are rumors that the home is abusive. I'm pulling every trick out of my hat but I am exhausted and getting nowhere. My entire day is spend managing his behavior. I want him to learn but my job is to teach ALL of my kids and I cannot seem to do this when his behavior is ruling my class. Any advice and ideas would be more than welcome!!!!