pros and cons to getting married during the school year

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  1. PEteacher07

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    We got married in mid January as I was starting my first teaching position 2 weeks prior. I took off Thursday, Friday, and the Monday afterwards and DH and I went on a mini-honeymoon in Ruidoso and took another vacation a year later to Vegas.

    I don't see why a principal would get upset over it. Your kids will get used to your last name. If you have enough sick/personal leave days, you should be able to take a couple off without a much of a hassle.
     
  2. knitter63

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    My husband and I got married in February. I was student teaching at the time-with no days off!! I did end up taking 4 days off-3 before the wedding and the Monday after-but I had to make up those days at the end of the year, while all my friends had started subbing!! No regrets, though.
    I changed my name right away. The 2nd graders thought it was great!!!
    We have been married 21 years, and we still have not had our honeymoon. : (
    We chose to have a child while we were saving for that honeymoon...and one thing led to another, and over the years the money saved has gone to something else. I have no regrets about that either-my marriage is solid, and we have had enough "honeymoon days" in our 21 years. : )
     
  3. cb4pebbles

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    I say marry when YOU want to. That is your day and you want it to be right for you and your fiance. You could have the children practice using your soon-to-be new name prior to getting married.
     
  4. knittingbec

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    I got married December 31. I missed the first 2 days back to school (to spend a day with, then spend a day at the airport saying goodbye to my military husband). We still haven't taken our honeymoon, and that was over 3 years ago! The name change wasn't an issue... I didn't insist that the students call me by my "new" name, some did and some didn't. Most of my colleagues kept calling me by my maiden name and that was fine with me too.
    You can always delay your honeymoon--but maybe you don't have to. It depends on your district. Last year, I was granted a week of leave (3 personal days + 3 days without pay) to go to a wedding in Mexico with no questions asked.
    I agree with the above poster--get married when you want to!
     
  5. KIF

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    My husband and I got married a few days after Christmas this past year. It was perfect because we had a few days off for a mini-honeymoon before school started. We then went to Jamaica over spring break. It was WONDERFUL we didn't have to stress about the wedding and the honeymoon at the same time. We thought it was neat that we got to spread it out and glow a bit longer! Plus, a winter wedding in the snow...beautiful!
     
  6. KIF

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    Oh yeah, and the name change. I officially changed my name but from January til now I go by both names and it has not been a big deal at all. The kids can call me either or both.
     
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    I originally wanted an autumn wedding, but since both of my parents and my husband's stepmother were also teachers, I was begged to be a June Bride.
     
  8. Emma35

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    I say take your honeymoon when you have a break from school. I have read thread after thread, post after post, about how it is so awful to take kids out of school during the school year for vacations. If it is so awful for parents to take kids out of school for vacations how can teachers say it is OK to take a week off for a honeymoon? Kind of like a double standard. Just my opinion.
     
  9. TeacherNY

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    In my school a bunch of teachers have taken off a week for their weddings. It was no big deal. I would do it only if you have accumulated time to take off and prepare in advance.
     
  10. TampaTeacher

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    Congrats!

    My husband and I wanted to get married in the fall, but decided that since you "just can't reason with hurricane season," we'd move our wedding up to spring. I wasn't teaching at the time, but I still couldn't afford to take off a lot of time.

    Instead, I took off Friday, got married Saturday, and spent Sunday and Monday with my new hubby. We waited and had a Christmastime honeymoon. It was wonderful, because we had two wonderful events to look forward to. :)
     
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    I got married in October of my first year teaching. I started out with my last name and I changed it after the honeymoon. It was actually a fun experience. My students had the opportunity to meet my fiance and we all had a party. I gave the kiddos little silver rings to celebrate. It was not a negative experience for me at all. I felt confident that my kids were in excellent hands during the week of my honeymoon(amazing sub). I came back refreshed and relaxed, it was well worth it!
     
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    I think you should get married when you want. This is your big day, I think if you plan accordingly, like if you find a sub that may be familiar with you or your class, you will be just fine! Getting married is a big deal and you shouldn't worry about missing a week of school.
    As far as the name change, maybe you should just tell the kids, they would think it's cool actually
     
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    I got married on September 3. It during my third year of teaching. Both my husband and I had too much going on in our families at the beginning of summer so we chose Sept. We chose the third because that was when we were engaged a year previous. It was good because it was Labor Day weekend, so we already had Monday off. I took a personal day Friday to get ready and Tuesday to recover we stayed a night in a resort hotel on Sat and Sunday after the wedding Sat afternoon and reception Sat night. We took our honeymoon in June of the following year. While it was a long wait it was nice to have something to look forward to. You could even not wait that long and go during in Christmas break. It can be done!
     
  14. stampin'teacher

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    I got married October 24 and I wouldn't change a thing. I also wanted a fall wedding-love the weather, colors, etc. We were married on Sunday and I took off the Friday before, and took the 3 days afterwards off for a "mini-honeymoon." We decided to take our longer honeymoon to Cancun during the following spring break.

    I haven't read all the other posts, but my advice to you is get married when you want to get married. The kids will survive-just make sure you have clear plans for when you're out.
     
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    This is a 5 year old thread. I sure hope the OP has figured it out by now!
     
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    :woot:
     
  17. 2ndTimeAround

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    I would get married when I wanted to get married. Not when it was convenient for the school or the students. You are talking about one week out of the whole school year. Versus having the anniversary date that you really want. I've subbed for many Fall and Spring weddings. It was never an issue in any of the schools where I have been. Just make sure that you spend some of your summer planning for that week as well as your wedding.

    That being said, you might want to consider anniversary trips down the road - while a P is probably not going to have any problem with you taking off for a wedding/honeymoon, you probably aren't going to be able to go on any trips to celebrate your anniversary. We never do anyhow, so that would be a moot point for us.
     
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    Ooops! lol! I didn't pay any attention to the date!
     
  19. Roobunny

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    I agree with this. Although I am not getting married during the school year (my wedding date is set for June 29th), we are postponing the honeymoon until next summer when we'll have more time and money - it also gives us something else to look forward to.
     
  20. stampin'teacher

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    Whoops! Just saw it in the "all new posts" so I didn't look at the date. Looks like my sleep deprivation since the new baby has gotten the better of me on this one! :lol:
     

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