Parents who dread school breaks

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  1. catnfiddle

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    Let's keep things away from dangerous waters before we start getting ultra-judgmental. Personally, I'm a little worried for our more food-insecure students and their families during these breaks.
     
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    Me, too. Yes, there are deadbeats, but you also have good families trying their best where a day off of school, let alone a longer break, is a huge stressor. There is no funds for childcare during that time while they work, little to feed them, etc.
     
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    I am really excited to see my students today. The vast majority of our parents are trying their best. Long school breaks are stressful for them because our students get two meals and a heavy snack each day at school. Our attendance zone includes both the best and worst neighborhood in the school. About half of our kids live in areas where gun fire is common at all times of day. Those kids are so much safer at school than at home. Most of the parents work, or are disabled and can't work, or kids live with disable grandparents because parents are deployed or sometimes incarcerated. I have so much hope for my kids who are at school trying to do better. I also have so much empathy for their parents, who are trying the best that they can. The holidays are stressful enough without judgement from others.
     
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    The kids are lined up outside waiting for us to open the gates for breakfast. I got out of my car at 6:45 (yes, many of them get here that early to be first in line for breakfast). They seemed happier than normal to see me.

    Food insecurity is real! I’m thrilled they’re all back on a regular schedule where they’ll get two square meals a day.

    On a frustrating note, internet and email are down. I can access everything from my phone, thankfully, but I hate sitting at my desk with phone in hand.
     
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    Some of us actually have lives and enjoy time off especially away from children. ;)
     
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    Why are you stirring the pot and making this personal? I suspect that mathmagic has a life too. Why would you suggest otherwise?
     
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  7. whizkid

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    Well, it's that time again. HALLELUUUUUUUUUUUUJAH! 4 1/2 days to freedom! A full 16 1/2 days of relaxation, food and fun, and the absolute best part..........no kids! None! I'm done with all of my shopping! I won't run the risk of seeing any of them around town! How sweet it is! Jingle bell, jingle bell, jingle bell rock!

    You breed em, you feed em!
     
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    I must say, many things people say on this anonymous public forum are offensive...but this statement probably ranks in the top 10...
     
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    It's gotta be trolling...
     
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    I agree. Parents should want to spend quality time and enjoy fun times w/ their children when at all possible. Life zips by fast. One day they're in pre-school, the next, they're graduating from college & it literally felt like just a few yrs.
     
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    This is one weekend I want to just fly by!
     
  12. whizkid

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    Our Xmas program is this week, and when the principal makes the infamous phrase "we love your children, but they're all yours for two weeks", the disgust on the parents' faces will be apparent.

    These are the parents that catch you in the store and ask "you wanna take em home with ya"? How does it look for me to take your child home with ME? I mean, really? Nope, I'm going home to peace and quiet. I've had them for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week for the last semester. They're your problem now.
     
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    You do realize that most of those comments are made in jest???!!!
    If you hate the job so much, why don't you find a better paying job in another field?
     
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    Don't even suggest me taking your child home.

    If you hate my comments so much, why respond? On another note since you love them so much, take them home with YOU!
     
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    This discussion is in serious jeopardy of being locked.
     
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    In case the point hasn't been made, a lot of parents "dread" breaks not because they dislike their children, but because it takes work to arrange vacation camps and figure out how to get them there. For summer, for instance, we typically start looking for our youngest son's baseball camp around now. That lasts three weeks, so then we have to find another camp or activity for the few days after school has ended before his camp starts, and then we have to find something after that in August, and sprinkle a some vacation in there ourselves when we can actually spend time with the kids. Our middle son did an academic program last year in the summer.

    The cost of these is also pretty extensive. We were very lucky to find the baseball camp for a bit over $500 per week, and then it was I think $150 for the time between and another $150 during August. Our middle son's program was in the neighborhood of $3500.

    Then there's also a matter of physically getting kids to these activities. It's kind of tough when they don't take kids before 8:30 and you work 40 minutes drive away starting at 9 am. Oh, and you're expected to pick them up at 3. There's a lot of jobs that don't really like you telling them you're going to leave at 2:15 every day in the summer.
     
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    And a lot dread them because they do and want them to be someone else's problem, which is why they hate when there's no school.
     
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    Yea, I prefer Roth IRAs, brokerage accounts and savings.
     
  19. YoungTeacherGuy

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    Last summer, I paid for my nephew to go to a baseball camp because he got really good grades. It was $2200 for 2 weeks! Yes, he learned a lot and enjoyed being taught by “famous baseball players” (guys from the local state university), but that was expensive!
     
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    I can't imagine how hard it is to have to dole out extra funds during school breaks but apparently these parents didn't think about any of this before they had kids. I mean, this just didn't spring up on them...school breaks have been around forever. I guess having kids sounded fun and of course they are so cute when they are babies but they didn't think about what they would be responsible for? Just having them and then hoping someone else clothes, feeds, entertains them, etc.? I'm asking a legitimate question to all of those who have kids. Did any of these things occur to you before you had them? Did your parents make parenting look easier than it really was? Anyone have any input on this?
     
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