Discussion in 'Preschool' started by Playfulteach, Feb 28, 2015.
Mar 6, 2015
Now why would you ever say no to another martini?? :lol:
Mar 16, 2015
Yeah, you're right. This phrase is overused in certain regions or maybe even certain preschools. I've used it, and I thought about it, and it doesn't make much sense. I now tell the kids to tell someone, "Personal space please," if someone is too close. Or I will tell them to say, "Stop, I don't like that."
I will have the child walk over to the child that did the hitting, name calling or otherwise being "mean". I tell them to say what they didn't like and they finish with "Do not do that to me again!"
Mar 28, 2015
It doesn't teach the children what the RIGHT words are to use. Susie puts her feet on the table and the teacher says, "No thank you!" We should tell the child what is the right thing to do : "Your feet belong on the floor."
I am guilty of using this phrase. I don't teach it to my kids, but I do say it. If Tim is throwing rocks, I'd say "No, thank you (as in, 'No, don't do that and thank you for listening). Rocks stay on the ground." To me, it's a way of saying "don't" and "thank you" for complying/listening. It's always followed by what the kiddos can do.
If a kiddo hit another, it's always a firm "We have nice hands, we do not hit." I teach kids to say "I don't like it when..." "Please stop..." etc.
If you have to fill in the blanks when you use a phrase for adults to understand what you really are trying to say, it is not going to get the right meaning across to the very young child.
I could see saying "No." and pausing until the action stops. Then saying "Thank you.", but as you phrase it, there is too much that isn't said that is thought in your head.
Children learn by listening to those who model language. So, while you are not intentionally teaching kids to use this phrase the children will pick it up in the context it is being used. Therefore on one level you are teaching children to say "No, thank you." when someone is doing something not desired.
I suppose I am the minority who doesn't think saying "no, thank you" is inappropriate. Of course, saying "no, thank you" in response to aggressive behavior is inappropriate and I don't say it then, nor do I teach victims to say it either. I do, however, think saying "no, thank you" in other instances exposes my preschoolers to mannerisms. Any time I could say no, outside of inappropriate situations, I say "no, thank you."
I do this at home with my 3 and 5 year olds. My children have always heard "no, thank you," even as I am telling them to sit on the couch vs. stand on the couch. Whenever my children say "no," it's always followed by "thank you" because they hear me say it. I teach them how to claim and defend appropriately, like I do with my students.
:thumb: someone touches me, hits me, violates my safety...you can bet I'm not thanking them. I'll say stop, yell no, call for help , push or hit back...but no, I won't be thanking them. And kids shouldn't eIther.
I agree and don't say or teach my kids to say "no, thank you" in these situations. I say, and teach kids to say, appropriate phrases. My post was about saying "no, thank you" in general and not in response to hitting, biting, kicking, etc.
This was the OP.
Yes. I was responding to OP's question of "What is your take on the phrase "no thank you." I should have been more specific in my post.
Apr 9, 2015
The last center I worked at used that "no, thank you" technique. Here, we don't! We teach the kids to say "Please stop _______!" We use solution kits so they know a variety of ways to solve their conflict, including ignoring/walking away!
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