Need help with an e-mail.../Sticky Situation

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  1. RussianBlueMommy

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    Hi Everyone
    So being a fulltime/building sub, I often float to various classrooms throughout the day.
    Last year, there is a teacher that I took a 3 day job for and ended up getting extremely ill the morning before (throwing up, 103 fever, etc) Turned out I had a severe case of pneumonia and ended up being out of work for several weeks.
    Today, I was covering for the Art Teacher during her 4th period class while she was at a meeting. I leave cards with my info, and they have my info, thanking the teacher for letting me fill in and on the back I write any issues, absesnces etc. Teachers love them.
    The problem I saw, is that I had to come back and do her class again 7th period. The teacher who covered 6th period was the one I cancelled for last year. He left this on a post it note on top of my note

    "I have had her jobs for me three days. She cancelled at 7:30 that morning. I have had her blocked from my sub list b/c I cannot take the risk of my class not being covered (it is a 100% guarantee she would cancel on me again). Obviously you had better luck than I had. Sincerely, Mr......**

    Now, I do not think he was expecting me to come back 7th period or to even know he left the note. It makes me wonder how many other teachers he has done this to, and this year I have a great track record and got my health issues resolved. Here is the email I am considering writing to him and CC human resources. What do you think? I am going to sleep on it and not send it today


    "Hello Mr. *"

    I ended up subbing for Mrs.* again during 7th period and I saw the post-it note you left on my card. I feel it is unprofessional of you to have modified the note I left and my concern is that you will continue to try and dissuade teachers from wanting me as their sub.

    Regarding the times I cancelled last year: I had a lot of health problems going on. I do apologize that it put you in a bind and it is understandable that you would remove me from your sub list. However, I believe in going directly to the source when there is an issue (that is why I am e-mailing you directly). I got my health problems mostly sorted this year and have had very minimal cancellations and am building a track record of teachers who request me and ask me to sub for them, it how I stay busy five days a week if I wish.

    Another point I would like to bring up, is the day that you came into the room when I was subbing for Mrs. *, you specifically asked me if I would be able to also sub for her the next day. I was only in her room that day for one period because they pulled me during the teacher's conference and I was already booked up the next day so I told you I could not sub. It confuses me that if I am such an unreliable sub, that you would request I fill a spot for another teacher while at the same time telling a different teacher how horrible I am.

    I would like to think that two professional adults can have a reasonable conversation and not resort to leaving post-it notes about each other. It would have been a kind gesture for you to speak to me directly about the issues you had. Because I try to do the best job I can, and because I consider myself to be a professional, I will be leaving the post-it note for her to see because I would find it unprofessional to remove it since I did not write it."

    This is a draft I need to sleep on. I'm frustrated right now and not sure how to fully proceed. HR was involved back when I cancelled that day last year, so I should think about CC them right? Please help, I need advice.
    Another option would be to leave a second note but that just seems petty. His note reads like spiteful revenge and not simply "warning" a teacher.
     
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  3. TrademarkTer

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    Most people will probably say let it go, but I know that is going to be hard to do. I think that just drafting the email, even if you don't send it, will make you feel a little better. If you do send the email, I don't think that I would CC human resources. Getting admin. involved just makes things stickier than they need to be, and will make him even more defensive.
     
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  4. RussianBlueMommy

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    Writing it was therapeutic to a degree. I just shared it with one of my close teachers at the school and she said “he holds grudges” and that she personally knew of 21 teachers in the school that have me on their top list. And to just ignore it. I did remove my card from the desk though so it’s just his random post it note on there .

    Just seems unprofessional of him .
     
  5. TrademarkTer

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    Absolutely unprofessional of him. I also don't understand why he would be so upset about it---obviously someone had to have covered his classes.
     
  6. svassillion

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    That would eat away at me and I think it needs to be addressed, otherwise this teacher will keep speaking about you to other teachers. Although I think the email is thoughtfully worded I feel like he'll get defensive as soon as he starts to read it and that prevents any change of mind to happen. I think maybe a better way to approach it would be to sit down with him face to face and explain how you found the note he left and how upsetting it was to read. Explain what had happened that morning you cancelled last minute and emphasize how dependable you've been this year for other teachers. But no matter what, go in level-headed and show reasoning so he's not feeling attacked (although that may be what he deserves but it doesn't help the situation). And to echo Trademark, don't get human resources involved right away. If he continues to be unprofessional to you afterwards you can bring it up, but doing so right away is a little hasty and will immediately stop him from ever changing his mind about you.

    If you choose not to address it, I doubt he'll have much influence on the other teachers' opinions of you. If their experiences working with you are good, they'll dismiss his rants because it conflicts with their own. Why was he so angry over that one morning? If he was out, it's not like it made more work for him.
     
  7. RussianBlueMommy

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    I don’t know why he is so angry. Over the past two years I have heard several teachers talk about how odd and unprofessional he is maybe he’s just like that?
     
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    I think you should address it, but not with that email. Yours is too accusatory. An actual staff member will always win out in pissing wars with subs.

    Simply let him know why you missed covering his classes. Let him know how often you don't show when you've accepted an assignment. Leave it at that.

    FTR, I ALWAYS tell my coworkers when I've had a bad experience with a sub. I do not think it was unprofessional for him to let his know that he had a rough experience with you. He was wrong in what he said, but not why he said it.
     
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    I am not just a sub anymore (see previous posts). I am a full-time employee there, a building sub/inclusion.

    It's also important I think, to remember that subs are human. They get sick, they get injured and they too have family emergencies come up. I understand why he took me off his list, but it seems unprofessional (almost 2 years later) to be trying to sabotage me by speaking so militant and childish about me." The quote at the end "Obviously, you have had better luck than me"... is just a stab and was not a constructive statement.
     
  10. Caesar753

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    I wouldn't send that. I wouldn't even consider CCing HR.

    While the circumstances under which you cancelled the job are completely understandable, it's also completely understandable for the teacher to be upset about it. He thought he had a sub lined up and at the last minute he didn't. He is allowed to share his experience with other teachers, just like you can share your experiences about him with others.
     
  11. RussianBlueMommy

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    Yes, he is allowed to. The way in which he did it was unprofessional. His wording, behind my back, etc. It was nearly 2 YEARS ago, I have no idea why he would be still angry and holding a grudge.

    However, I think maybe the best in this situation is to just prove him wrong through my actions and continue building rapport with teachers who favorite and like and request me.
     
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    Tattling isn't much more professional though, and the tone of your message reads to me like it's a little tattleish and very defensive, especially for, as you point out, an incident from two years ago. I don't think you were wrong to cancel at all, please don't misunderstand me. All the same, it can be stressful for a teacher to be without a sub without notice. I don't really blame a teacher for being worked up about it and telling others. You can bet I still tell people about the sub I had who ignored my lesson and told my class that Sandy Hook was a conspiracy. I know it happened because 1) numerous trustworthy students reported it to me when I returned and 2) the teacher wrote notes backing up conspiracy claims on my board and didn't erase them.

    My point is that he can feel however he feels, and you can feel however you feel, and in this situation, I don't really think either of you is wrong.


    This is the best thing to do.
     
  13. RussianBlueMommy

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    A conspiracy? HUHHH wow lol
     
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    Oh my goodness! I'm currently picturing a sub filling in a conspiracy map on the board in front of my Ks and can't help but laugh. What? How is this person allowed around kids?
     
  15. RussianBlueMommy

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    I found a pic of him!!

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    Probably more like this:

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    YES! YES! Exactly what I was picturing. I even considered going to find this as a gif! Pepe Silvia!
     
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    I'm sorry that you're dealing with this. It would burn me up, too. I ultimately agree with Ceasar that I probably wouldn't send the email, but I do understand why you wrote it. What about explaining things to him face to face? You could be honest, and say that you totally understand why he would be frustrated to have a sub cancel, but that you wanted to personally explain why those cancellations occurred. Chances are, he'll be sheepish about being caught gossiping, and if you're super nice about it, he may realize that his claims are a bit unfounded.

    I, too, have talked about my experiences with subs, but I don't put those things in writing. Also, it sounds like you're a great employee. Your good reputation will surpass his claims.
     
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    I hope so! I just worry ya know? I can't afford to have teachers blacklisting me. Though with there being 115 in the school, 1 is not going to make that much difference. I don't feel compelled to even address it with him as I doubt he is going around to every room at the end of the day and leaving notes. And at the end of the day, I am proving him wrong every single day I show up and do my job.
     
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    Yes! I love what you said about showing up each day. As a teacher, I've had other teachers think poorly of me in the past (really just one other teacher that I know of). It used to make me feel so bad, but I kept that mentality. Now I'm well known for being positively mediocre! Lol! Hopefully I'll gain an even better reputation as the years pass.
     
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    I too am sorry and it is unfortunate.
    I would not send it.
    Let your true reputation speak for itself in time.
    Anything negative tends to bring more harm than good.
     

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