You're welcomed resourcestress. And vickilyn...Ask Ann Landers and Ask Abby - twin sisters, classy ladies. Classic stuff. Both of them gave you advice and one-liners that kept me rolling. I had one counselor tell me, "Put your ex in a box." When you feel the urge to vent and go on and on about him, put him back in the box. Not only did I take him out the box, I got back with him. Yeah, it didn't last, but it gave me a 2nd chance to see if we could make it work. I was able to get more teaching experience in ESL by moving back to CA. We have a level of tolerance/acceptance now, and I don't have to keep him in a box. I can talk about him freely, without stressing out. I told my daughter today, if I had not gone back to him, they probably wouldn't have a relationship. He can talk to her. She can talk to me. They can talk to each other and be happy, and leave me out of their happiness. Our happiness ended after our divorce. Her happiness works for her, it doesn't have to affect me.