My spouse doesn't get my job, & need to vent

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  1. Master Pre-K

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    You're welcomed resourcestress. And vickilyn...Ask Ann Landers and Ask Abby - twin sisters, classy ladies. Classic stuff. Both of them gave you advice and one-liners that kept me rolling.:rofl:

    I had one counselor tell me, "Put your ex in a box." When you feel the urge to vent and go on and on about him, put him back in the box.

    Not only did I take him out the box, I got back with him. Yeah, it didn't last, but it gave me a 2nd chance to see if we could make it work. I was able to get more teaching experience in ESL by moving back to CA. We have a level of tolerance/acceptance now, and I don't have to keep him in a box. I can talk about him freely, without stressing out.

    I told my daughter today, if I had not gone back to him, they probably wouldn't have a relationship.:hugs: He can talk to her. She can talk to me. They can talk to each other and be happy, and leave me out of their happiness. Our happiness ended after our divorce. Her happiness works for her, it doesn't have to affect me.
     
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    I’d like to add, I’m in preschool and have kids crying and screaming all day.

    When I come home, the last thing I want to hear is a blood & guts movie with piercing screams. My guy loves these, along with wrestling - which is another thread.:mad:

    All I am asking for is understanding. He expects me to jump in his arms and lay on the couch and watch this drama and nonsense. I just want to unwind and have some peace and quiet. I don’t want to watch violence, hear screaming or watch slapstick humor. He doesn’t get it.
     
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    Amen, all I want is silence.
     
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    Wrestling is so contrived and stupid!
     
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    ......
     
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    It is contrived. Some don't think it is stupid though. They find humor in it.

    Some would say that fiction novels are contrived and stupid. Why would someone want to read about a fake drama about someone who doesn't exist or a murder of someone who doesn't exist?
     
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    The difference is that people recognize fiction is just that, fiction. The wrestling community seems to think that wrestling is not fake, which it completely is. I’ve actually watched a few matches to see what the big hype is and I was amazed at how idiotic it was. It’s basically like watching a low budget film with D-ranked actors/actresses and you can see the actors pulling punches and there is a cliched onomatopoeic “kachow!” after each “hit.”

    And the crowd goes wild and brays, like a bunch of jack... donkeys.
     
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    Thank you futuremathsprof!

    You could say it's a male soap opera. Okay, you don't see any of those actors in thongs, oiled up, and screeching in pain every five minutes. The only drama there is the fake threats and a costume party. I think it's a bridal party fantasy.

    Well, if da two of yous guys wanna join me in my, "Things your SO does that annoy you thread" and battle this out, c'mon!

    I am truly fed up with it... especially the women wrestlers. I think it's demoralizing and borderline soft porn.

    I feel like I have kids all day, and one big one at night!
     
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    It took Rockhubby YEARS to start understanding my life as a teacher, specifically one who works with an at-risk population. When he started handling IT for a counseling center that, among other things, supplies schools with social workers, he started understanding my job a lot more.
     
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    That's a generalization which you can't prove is true. I know lots of wrestling fans that know it is all just a show. It isn't my cup of tea, but your generalization isn't accurate. Some believe it to be true, but generalizing to the whole community is wrong.
     
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    This is hysterical, LOL!
     
  12. futuremathsprof

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    I said seems to, not that it does. Read more carefully.
     
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    There's a lot of artistry to professional wrestling, and not everyone can appreciate it. It sounds like you think you're superior to wrestling fans, of which there are millions all across the globe. Your last sentence especially makes you sound incredibly arrogant. If you're ever interested, look up current WWE superstar Xavier Woods, notable for getting his Ph.D. while being WWE Tag Team champion, or Christopher Nowinski, a Harvard grad and former WWE wrestler.
     
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    It is still a generalization based on nothing but your own opinion rather than facts. "Seems to" doesn't make it not a generalization. It actually makes the comment worse because it is based on nothing other than your opinion.
     
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    Generalizations can be similar to stereotypes in that they are sometimes wrong and harmful. Usually, it's best to stick with specifics and avoid generalizations - especially when the topic is one that a great number of people are passionate about. Right or wrong, harmful or not people on this forum should just relax/chill and be more selective in what they choose to read or not.
     
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    I don’t think I am better than anyone. I just think there is a time and place, a reason and a season. Some shows are just designed for a different crowd. I don’t mind a few episodes of The Simpsons and admit to taping them as well. But....I do question my bf’s maturity because...

    I don’t watch cartoons every single night.

    And a SO or housemate could consider your feelings. He wears headphones and goes in the other room. Problem partially solved. I can’t discuss my day with 5 year olds with someone who is watching grown men throw chairs at each other.
     
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    And your comment is also an opinion.
     
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    I’m not saying I’m better than anyone. I just don’t understand why people get so riled about fake fighting. At least in the movies it looks real. Mixed-martial arts is exhilarating and exciting to watch. Wrestling just seems so artificial, like Operation Repo.
     
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  19. Master Pre-K

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    I tend to worry that “Too much of anything is not good for you.”

    Did I mention SO is over 50, and watches these shows every night??

    Somebody tell me the positive outcomes of this obesession.

    The thread is topic is, “My spouse doesn’t get my job...and I need to vent.”

    Anyone who has heard the line, “Oh you just sit and watch kids all day.”or, “You get all that time off.” certainly does not get us. Would you agree?

    And, someone who enjoys seeing adults inflict pain on each other, whether real or staged - every single night - should send out some red flags of concern, IMHO.

    I’m with this guy. What gives? How can this be harmless. This clearly is some type of outlet. OP needs a safe zone and support. I need to know if my SO’s behavior is normal before I start planning on parking a rocking chair next to him.
     
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    Different strokes for different folks - don't require anyone's approval.
     

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