I'm so upset I can't stop crying

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  1. Weazy

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    You sound stronger already. Good for you! Smile A LOT when you are around him--even if you don't feel like it. Make him realize that this is the best move in the world for you-because it is! Start shopping for your new place. If he tells you that you can take someting with you, I would say nah-I don't want that old thing.
    Make him realize that life will go on without him.
     
  2. elizak83

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    He just told me "it hasn't sunk in that I'm leaving yet."

    hahaha...
     
  3. Lareigna

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    You go girl...keep being strong!
     
  4. scienceteach82

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    The sooner you can get away...the better. -hugs-
     
  5. mmswm

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    :rolleyes: Can I come visit with a rubber baseball bat???? Pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaasssssssssseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee?????

    Though it's probably not much of a consolation now, but, at least he showed his true colors before you got married or officially engaged.
     
  6. ku_alum

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    Bleck. What a whiney loser he is!

    Sorry, I shouldn't judge ... it just seems like he is playing mind games with you and that makes me mad (and sad for him in a "how pathetic" way). But, he can't play games if you don't participate.

    Stay strong! We are all rooting for you to get on without him.
     
  7. cMcD

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    I've been a bystander to this thread for a while. I feel somewhat bonded to you, eliza, because you were just in my city (Indy). :)

    You have him in the palm of you hand. Take everyone's advice. Seem really happy to be moving on with your life without him in front of him. Don't give him too many details. After you move out change your # or have his # blocked. He'll probably realize what he did and try to win you back with nice txts, emails, or phone calls. Maybe flowers. I wouldn't reply. He messed up your relationship. It seems that you gave 100%. Maybe he should have thought about EVERYTHING before he cheated, lied, and dumped you.

    Like mm said, he's showing you his true colors before marriage right now. Who's to say he won't cheat on you when you're married with a couple kids? I think the pattern would lead to that.

    You deserve so much better.
     
  8. katenar

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    Eliza I have just spent the past half hour reading 17 pages of your story. :huh: The words of encouragement & advice here are amazing and I hope when you feel the moments of weakness that we all feel at one time or another that you will remember all that has been said to you.

    Stay strong. I don't even know you besides from seeing you on A to Z but I DO KNOW that you don't deserve what is being done to you.

    Listen to your parents. At age 29, I really wish I did more often.....sometimes they just know what is best in certain situations and when it comes down to it all they want is for you to be happy. :hugs:
     
  9. TeacherC

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    Just a thought here...if you really want to rub it in, call a male friend and have him come pick you up for a "date"...don't tell him you are going out, just get all dressed up and leave when the date shows up. Heck, you could use your cousin if it's someone he doesn't know, and you really could just go get ice cream or something...but he won't know. Not that it's all about getting even or anything...but I bet it would feel great! :whistle: You're doing great Eliza!
     
  10. Lives4Math

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    I'm sure it's already been said (I'm only on pg. 16) but I just wanted to say that he's an extra big loser just because he told you "when I realize that I've made a mistake...."....obviously he already knows...just wants to have his cake and eat it too.

    I agree with everyone else...listen to your parents (I know...I'm 25 and still don't want to believe that sometimes they ARE right lol). But....it seems like since you've visited home we're actually seeing smiles in your posts! :) YAY! Keep smiling...start laughing if you haven't already and hang in there. Oct. seems like a long way away...but stay as strong as you are now and you'll make it!!! We'll help!
     
  11. CanadianTeacher

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    I would listen to your parents about going to stay with your aunt and uncle until you can move into your new place. Break the ties now. The longer you stick around, the more chance he has to wear you down and keep hold of you and it really sounds like that's what he's trying to do. Think about it--he only realizes he's made a mistake when he sees that you are willing to take action about it. Had you done nothing, he would have continued what he was doing without a thought, I'm almost sure of that. It's like the kid who hangs on to the toy just so no one else can play with it.
     
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    Excellent! I don't know why I didn't post this by now. Be dressed super hot (I don't care if you're just going to get a yogurt) & never say a word to him, no matter what he says & when the doorbell rings for you to be picked up, you& your date should act like you've known each other for yrs! The look on his face will be priceless! Then walk out. After walking out for that date, stay out a LONG time. It would be wonderful if you could never come back & just have some movers get all your stuff. That would really make him wonder what the hell happened.

    If he's going to be a smart ass & play mind games w/ you, two can play that game!
     
  13. Beth561

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    I hope this helps, it is an email I recieved a few years back:
    Some of these apply to you, some don't but I think all in all this is a good list that all of us should think about.

    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE:
    1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you've come.

    2. Enough money within your control to move out and rent a place on your own, even if you never want or need to.

    3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.

    4. A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you're not ashamed to be seen carrying.

    5. A youth you're content to move beyond.

    6. A past juicy enough that you're looking forward to retelling it in your old age.

    7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age and some money set aside to help fund it.

    8. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.

    9. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.

    10. A good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.

    11. Eight matching plates, wineglasses with stems and a recipe for a meal that will make your guests feel honored.

    12. A resume that is not even the slightest bit padded.

    13. A feeling of control over your destiny.

    14. A skin care regime, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don't get better after 30, and all those other facets of life that do get better.

    EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW:
    1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.

    2. How you honestly feel about having kids.

    3. How to quit a job, break-up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.

    4. When to try harder and when to walk away.

    5. How to kiss a man in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn't like to happen next.

    6. How to have a good time at a party you'd never choose to attend.

    7. How to ask for what you want in a way that make it most likely you'll get it.

    8. That you can't change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your parents.

    9. That you childhood may not have been perfect, but it's over.

    10. What you would and wouldn't do for love or more.

    11. How to live alone, even if you don't like it.

    12. Who you can trust, who you can't, and why you shouldn't take it personally.

    13. Where to go - be it your best friend's kitchen table or a charming inn hidden in the woods - when your soul needs soothing.

    14. What you can and can't accomplish in a day, a month, and a year.

    15. Why they say life begins at 30.
     
  14. Irishdave

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    This kind of gives Home Improvements a new Light.:wow:
     
  15. Beth561

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    :rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:
     
  16. elizak83

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    It just keeps getting better...

    I needed to update everyone...this is kind of funny (at least in my opinion.)
    We all know how my bf was cheating on me w/ some girl he met. He kept talking about how great she was..she's a nurse...she's laid back...she's cool..yadda yadda
    Well......Jason likes "good girls" and he thought she was one. He just found out this girl was arrested twice in the past week....that she's court ordered to go to A.A. and she just lost her job because she does drugs...
    Oh and apparantly he let her borrow his car the other day and she was in a hit and run in it.

    Revenge is sweet...very very sweet....
    And again..he talks about getting back together.
    (Don't worry I'm not considering it.)
     
  17. mmswm

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    Ahhhh, revenge is sweetest when you let "natural consequences" do it for you. You can hold your head high to know that he got what he deserved and you did nothing illegeal, immoral or unethical to bring it about.

    Good for you for staying strong.
     
  18. Ms. I

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    This is priceless! Tell him that's what he gets for thinking she was better than you. BTW, I wouldn't let anyone drive my car.
     
  19. TeacherC

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    Especially someone I pretty much just met!! He deserves this...it's karma!!
     
  20. scienceteach82

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    That is too good! My ex who cheated on me ended up getting cheated on by the girl he left me for! hahahaha
    It was awesome...
     

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