I'm so upset I can't stop crying

Discussion in 'Teacher Time Out' started by elizak83, Aug 5, 2008.

  1. Weazy

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    I'm sorry, but he's either trying to keep you on the back burner, or once again he doesn't want to be the "bad guy". He is toying with your emotions, which is very cruel of him. If he truly loved you, he wouldn't be interested in another girl. His idea of love is very skewed. Just stay away from him in the mornings and the evenings. He is counting on you to be pathetic, and to be waiting on that back burner. Is that the kind of woman you want to be? I doubt it. Go forward and don't look back!
     
  2. Go 4th

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    What is it they say about it takes 21 days to break a habit? Give yourself time! You are right to grieve for the loss of the relationship. Just realize also, that cheating is never right, and you did not deserve this. If he wasn't happy, he could have been a man, and said so. Realize that he destroyed the relationship when he dropped his drawers.

    Change is hard. It is probably best to get out of there as soon as possible. Let your parents love on you and give you support.
     
  3. TeacherC

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    I hate to say it, but I agree with Weazy, I think he's saying "I love you" to make himself feel better...it's his good deed for the day! Don't let him mess with your emotions...you deserve so much more than that! I hope you are out looking at an apartment RIGHT NOW!! (And I just have to ask...he's sleeping on the couch now, right?!)
     
  4. bonneb

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    He might very well "love" you, but not the way you love him! You don't lie to and cheat on someone you love! As stated, if he really cared about YOU he would have done the honorable thing and told you he was not happy and was breaking it off. Dragging this out is cruel. Lying and cheating is cruel.

    Please tell him not to touch you or tell you he loves you anymore because it just hurts you more. How long are you away from your place? I would truly be suspicious of him being there alone.

    You need to get angry and start being proactive. How would you feel if a guy were treating your sister or best friend this way? Do not make it easy for him to have you on the back burner. Ask him to please not touch you anymore.
     
  5. Hoot Owl

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    I know this will get easier, please don't fall into the "dumb female" role.
     
  6. Rabbitt

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    A hug? NO NO NO NO!

    That exact thing happened to me once.
    I had to continue living with the guy for a month even after we broke up because he was cheating. He hugged me one morning and I sort of liked it until I walked out the door and slapped myself in the head! A few days later, he made himself supper and "enough for you too." I said, "sorry I already ate" even though I had not, and went to my room with the door shut. A few hours later I ran out for fast food.

    I am a HUGE Packer fan. i came out of my bedroom and he was in front of the TV all pumped for the game with attire, eats, and drinks...obviously waiting for me. I had to think fast as I was not sitting here with the cheater for 4 hours and I was not missing my Packer game. I put on my coat and left driving around for an awkward 15 minutes until I went to watch it with a friend who was working the front desk at Holiday Inn.

    It was VERY difficult to walk away but am soooo glad now that I did.
    It will pass.
     
  7. Ms. I

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    Rabbitt, I applaud your actions. :up: Don't give any of these bastards even a second of satisfaction! They don't deserve it! I would have slammed the door if he said "oh there's food for you too" & I wouldn't have sat & watched the game w/ him either.

    It's good to know there are some strong women out in the world.

    The way I live, I don't NEED a man. Sure, they're nice to have & they add to life, but I can take care of myself. I NEVER NEED one. More women should think this way, then when the guy is tired of them, the women can just kick their asses out just like that.
     
  8. Irishdave

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    A man needs a woman like like a fish needs er.. er... water
    wait is that right?
    maybe it is;
    A woman needs a man like like a fish needs a bicycle

    At times pluralistic marriage was the way things were (biblical)
    and it might be semi-hard wired into men's (and some women's) minds.
    It is time to down load new "firmware" so it stops.

    I won't kid you I feel that a woman completes me.
    I believe that that is why God made 2 sexes,
    to be together. The problem is where do you find the right one?

    We, men, need to search for "Miss Right" not "Miss Right now"
    and woman need to search for "Mr Right" not "Mr Right now".
    One thing I have found is;
    Women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex.
    Kind of sad isn't it.
     
  9. hescollin

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    You asked about something great to eat. Jello. Make a package of your favorite Jello. Pour out a cup full for a tasty hot drink. Put the rest in the refrigerator to enjoy later. It goes down easy and is full of protein. It is easy to make and cheap. Oh, yes it is suing to the stomach.

    Hope you find that perfect apartment and close to school would be great.

    You are way to good for the sneaking freak.
     
  10. elizak83

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    That sounds exactly like what he's doing!!
    Ooh..and today when I told him I found a place to live (I can't move in until Oct. 1st though..my parents want me to stay w/ my aunt and uncle who live nearby until then..) He asked me if I could find a place that will rent to me month to month...Of course I asked why (I'm signing a year lease). He was like...ummm....because when I realize I made a mistake I'm gonna want you to move back.

    *rolls eyes*
     
  11. catnfiddle

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    I think everyone who has heard that line before you just took an involuntary angry gasp, glared mentally at a man we've never met, and said, "Not THIS one. You can't have her!"

    It isn't that we don't think you can handle yourself. It's that we see our past pain freshly through your eyes. We want you to get through this ordeal in one piece so you can give perfect advice and TLC like we've tried to do for you.

    Hang in there, drink some Ensure or chocolate milk and find a good nook at the local book store where you can hide out in a pinch.
     
  12. Irishdave

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    OMG what a fool "Because was like...ummm....because when I realize I made a mistake" sounds like he has realized already. too bad for him!
     
  13. mmswm

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    Elizak, you deserve so much more than this man. The more you share, the more I want to take a trip to smack him around some. I'm glad you realize he's playing mental games with you. Don't fall for it, not matter how hard it gets. You're doing GREAT so far. Keep it up.
     
  14. elizak83

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    My dad says he gives it two months before Jason comes crying to me to come back because he realizes what he lost out on. My dad also said he would be very very angry if I ever went back to him. (He's not my parents favorite person right now:))
     
  15. Irishdave

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    Listen to your parents I wish I had
     
  16. mmswm

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    I second this.
     
  17. Sunny Teacher

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    Such good advice from everyone!

    I really like this quote...
    "Sometimes it's best to forget how you feel and remember what you deserve."
     
  18. Ms. I

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    If I were you, I wouldn't have even told him that I found a new place. Your business is no longer any of his. Can't you just totally ignore him...or at least talk to him only if you really have to? I wouldn't tell him about anything else I'm doing & if he asks, I'll reply w/ a smart-ass comment.
     
  19. BioAngel

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    What a jerk first of all for saying that to you!?! Seriously... what was he thinking? That you'd wait around for prince charming to come calling again *rolls eyes*... especially not when YOU ARE the princess here :)

    I'm sorry all of this happened... but I'm glad you're getting out of the relationship and dumping his sorry butt.
     
  20. Hoot Owl

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    Can all of us come and help you pack up and leave????? Your parents love you more than anyone in the world, be sure and listen to them, you'll regret it if you don't.
     

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