I'm so upset I can't stop crying

Discussion in 'Teacher Time Out' started by elizak83, Aug 5, 2008.

  1. Irishdave

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    rules of of Boyfriendhood
    1. No looky at Porny on GF computer
    2. Being a boyfriend is like an audition for Husbandhood so do a good job
    3. Find out quick if you like her parents
    4. Find out quick if she likes your parents
    ...........
    There is More but I might write a book so I don't want to give it away :lol:
     
  2. scienceteach82

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    aww...we want more!

    eliza- are you ok? please update
     
  3. elizak83

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    Sorry everyone..I just got home.
    Yesterday I didn't get out of bed until 5pm because I was so upset.
    I had to go to a training at school today (not fun when I had so obviously been crying.) Then I went out to dinner w/ a friend that I haven't seen in a while (that hates Jason btw.) I also did tell my parents...who are my support system. I'm basically a freakin wreck...but I am going to look at apartments next week...This weekend I'm going home to see my family in PA. I dont know why I'm hanging onto this....its awful I know and I feel like I have no backbone. I know I need to do what is right:(
     
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    :hugs:eliza.
     
  5. catnfiddle

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    Enjoy Pennsylvania and treat yourself to a ton of Tastykakes (I'm not sure which side of the state you're on). You need to be coddled, and nobody does that like The Parentals.
     
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    Being with your family will help Eliza.
    The sun will shine again...
     
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    Don't beat yourself up about wanting to hang on, just continue on working on getting out of the situation ... dinner with friends, visiting family for the weekend and apartment searching are the right moves. Good for you, keep to those plans. One day at a time. Honor yourself by doing what is good for you, even though what is good for you stinks big time and the hurt is gut wrenching ... it is the right thing to do.
     
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    And the healing begins. You WILL be okay. As for hanging on, it's a natural response--I'd probably do the same. Most people don't like large changes in their lives, especially if they are forced. Think about it, a month ago your life was basically all planned out and predictable--that's comfortable; now you have to live without knowing what's in store for the future (not that any of us really knows, but you know what I mean)--that's scary. However, now you have a support system started to help you adjust and that's good.
     
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    :hugs:
     
  10. MissWull

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    Take it easy at your parents' house this weekend. I think they will help you see what is right and just be there for you during this time in your life. That's what parents are for.
    The sooner you get out of this situation, the sooner you can begin to heal and move on with your life.
     
  11. dragonfly05

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    Hang in there. I'm so sorry you are going through this. As I mentioned before...this will make you a stronger woman and you will get through this. I agree with what others have said about counseling. I have been to counseling before and learned the reasons why I didn't value myself in relationships. I now understand why I did that and I am so much stronger and independent. Anyway, I just meant to say that you don't have to do all of this alone. Continue to use us as a means of support, your friends & family and please think about counseling. You need to learn to see yourself as a valuable person who does not deserve to be in this kind of relationship. ((hugs))
     
  12. Rabbitt

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    Of course you love him. You were planning on being with him forever. You will always have a special place for him in your heart.
    With that said...
    Move on NOW!
    Show yourself that you deserve better than this.
    Sticking around will only teach him that he can do this to you again.
    :2cents:
    Good luck!
     
  13. Ms. I

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    If I was a betting person, I'd say so too! So, whatever you do, don't kiss or sleep w/ him anymore. God only knows where his body parts have been!
     
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    ewwww you girls really cut to the chase
     
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    Yay Eliza!! Good for you going to PA and staying with family!! I hope that you find a beautiful apartment next week and you can throw yourself into your classroom to keep your mind off of it! We all know that he'll be the one missing you when you have moved on to bigger and MUCH better things in the future!! :)
     
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    You are doing what is right and you DO have backbone.

    1. You told your parents, after he asked you not to.

    2. You are going to look for an apartment.

    Those are two important steps YOU have taken to better your future. Your backbone will continue to strengthen with each step you take!
     
  17. elizak83

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    Update...

    I broke up w/ him today...

    I think he preferred me to do it so he didn't have to and I was sick of being drug around.

    I just wish I felt better about all of this.
     
  18. Weazy

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    You will in time, but it won't happen overnight. Make sure you give yourself time to heal. He may come crawling around after awhile, but that's when you will have to be really strong. Personally, you have already proven to be the stronger of the two in a relationship that you are better off without! You will have good days and you will have bad days, but everyday you will grow stronger!
     
  19. Ms. I

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    Good for you!!! :D Of course you won't be feeling your best, but this is something you HAD to do. It's normal to have a period of time to wallow in your misery, but not for too long. He probably feels relieved & is off to the next girl, but who the hell cares!

    Now, get out there, do some shopping, buy clothing you may not usually wear, get a new hairstyle, get a manicure & pedicure, work out & exercise! Enjoy the rest of your life!

    The next time you get into a relationship, be tougher mentally. Remember, the guy is fortunately to have YOU!

    Good luck.
     
  20. smalltowngal

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    I know this is not something you wanted to do, but after awhile you will feel better about having done it. You have tons of things to focus on and take your mind off of him: apartment hunting, visiting family, getting ready for school.

    :hugs: I know it isn't easy!
     

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