I think this may have to be my last year teaching. :(

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  1. bella84

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    That all sounds so great, Giraffe. I don't think I'm in a position to move to Michigan right now, but I sure wouldn't mind a work environment like that, if I could find one.
     
  2. Tasha

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    It's hard going back to work with kids, but it does get easier. Can you drop the middle of the night pump? Most people can skip that when exclusively pumping after establishing a supply. Getting a full night of sleep would probably be a good start. I also think all teachers feel a big drain while getting the new year up and running - setting up a classroom , new mandates/teaching programs, etc, teaching procedures, getting yourself back into the groove, beginning of the year testing, .... It all adds up and it's all draining. My kids got into. Routine of snoozing for 30 minutes or so when I picked them up (partially in the car) and then they could stay up a little later so I saw them for a little longer. I also made meals that went in the crockpot, could be prepped on Sunday, or we had takeout so that we weren't spending time cooking when the kids were awake.
     
  3. mrachelle87

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    It does get easier...and I agree, leave school as soon as possible and make time for yourself. If your finances allow, hire help with housework. The time you get for yourself and your family is worth the money spent.
     
  4. YoungTeacherGuy

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    Most of the teachers at my site have a cleaning lady who comes to their homes once or twice each month.

    Honestly, though, I don't know how working moms balance everything. My hat goes off to all of you!
     
  5. TamiJ

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    I am so sorry to hear this! It sounds like you have made your decision, the one that is best for you and your family and you shouldn't feel bad about it. If you need to stay home after this year then you do it. Teaching will always be there for you if ever you choose to return after your little one is older. Hugs to you.
     
  6. isabunny

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    I am looking for a job here in the Atlanta area. I was working at Trader Joe's, but landed a job teaching ESOL at a college. I was so excited! After the first instructional meeting, I learned the drive was going to take hour one way. Two days a week I was only teaching for 1 1/2 hours. The job was suppose to be 5 hour days. Financially, I would almost break even. There were some other issues I learned after the instructional meeting. It just wasn't going to work out. :-(
    Anyway, I had already left my job at TJ's for my dream teaching job, which didn't work out. Seriously, this teaching thing just hasn't worked out for me at all. It's like the doors just keep closing in front of my face. I would love a nice office job that has somewhat regular hours and decent pay. I am wondering if your company has any offices in my area of the country (North of Atlanta).
     
  7. giraffe326

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    Nope. Sorry :(

    95% of the company (companies, really, because the owner has about 120 different companies) is (are) here in Michigan. There are some offices in Ohio, Texas, Pennsylvania, Arizona, North Carolina, and California. And those are all small offices. I just checked openings in each and most only have 3-5 open positions. There are over 200 openings here.

    Search for title companies in your area. You could be surprised. I'm commuting about 60 miles, so after I started work, I began to see if there is a possibility of working closer to home. I'm staying, but in a year or two (if I still don't feel ready to teach again), I may look at opportunities closer to home.
    I also know that a lot of my coworkers did title work in a lawyer's office prior to coming to my company.
     
  8. giraffe326

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    Actually, I need to amend my last post. I was just trained in Georgia closings this week. They do it differently. I still don't understand, but we have to go through a lawyer in Georgia. (Sorry I can't give you more information. I've only worked on three Georgia files, so I don't fully 'get it' yet.)
     
  9. melnm

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    I stayed home with mine when they were little because I couldn't imagine leaving them. I know I would have had just as much difficulty as you. I hope it all works out that you can quit like you want next year. My kids are 11 and 9 now and it's still hard some days!
     
  10. Rabbitt

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    Can you have someone do some household chores for you at home? My mother-in-law picked up bedding and towels weekly to wash and hang at her home.

    Church? our church offers services for those in need. When we had 3 little ones in diapers, working, and pumping, we received help with monthly cleaning, two weekly meals, and lawn clean up.

    I also made arrangements so that one night I could stay at school SUPER long. Exhausted, but I would stay until 10:00. All other nights I went home to my boys. On weekends, I did some things online like Skyward, Goggle docs, Google calendar, i-pad apps, etc. But even that was not often.

    I got a parent to come in for the whole day one day a week. I made a to do list and she loved to complete it. Copy, laminate, cut out, clean, organize, display...basically odds and ends tasks. She was reliable and loved it.

    Best wishes. Like others say, it does get better.
     
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    Use up all your sick days this year and quit. There's no reason to be miserable if your family can afford for you to stay home.
     
  12. DrivingPigeon

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    Thanks so much for the encouraging words and advice, everyone.

    We have talked about hiring a cleaning person, but haven't looked into it yet. It would be nice to not have to worry about cleaning the floors, bathroom, etc. on the weekends. We don't have family nearby, so we don't have that kind of help.

    I think part of the reason I'm so exhausted, too, is that my husband isn't very helpful. I woke up this morning with a sore back. I can't even stand up or walk. He had a 100 mile bike ride planned 90 minutes away. He was gone from 5:00 AM to 3:00 PM. I had to call my mom to drive 90 minutes to help me, because I couldn't even pick up and/or carry my daughter. I actually found a sub for tomorrow, because I still can't walk. My husband was asking how he could help, but then every time I asked him to do something he would complain that I was ordering him around. Our LO is teething, so bedtime was really tough, and he kept getting frustrated with her, and I couldn't help. So, I feel like I don't have a whole lot of support, which doesn't help matters.

    Unfortunately, LO will have to go to daycare tomorrow, even though I'm home, because I can't even carry her or pick her up. I'll probably be at home crying all day, missing her. Ugh.
     
  13. Amanda

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    After you've paid for a cleaning lady and for daycare, is it worth the $ you are earning?

    I'm sorry, it's even harder when you don't have the support you need at home. :hugs:

    Look into finding a good chiropractor if your back is that bad. I got a bad back after having kids and it got to the point it was causing other issues in my body. I got everything all straightened out (literally) and feel so much better now. Kicking myself I didn't do it sooner.
     
  14. DrivingPigeon

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    I actually have an awesome chiropractor. I haven't seen him in a while, because my back has been great. And then all of a sudden this happens!

    Unfortunately, it is still worth it for me to work. Daycare and a cleaning person make up about half of my salary. We're also on my insurance, which is amazing ($40/month vs. $200/month for DH's, $500 deductible vs. $7,000 deductible). It's probably the insurance that has held us back the most from me just quitting.
     
  15. Caesar753

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    Fair warning: this is going to sound harsh. Your husband needs to step it up. I think it's ridiculous that he is spending weekends away doing his hobbies while you are suffering and overwhelmed. If he is getting frustrated with the baby, then he can do all the non-baby things like laundry, dinner, cleaning, etc. I'm not sure about the state of your marriage or if this behavior has been acceptable all along even pre-baby, but it needs to get resolved now.

    I agree that maybe dropping the MOTN pump might help you feel less tired. Have you considered stopping pumping altogether? You certainly don't need to, but if it's part of your stress then it might be worth considering at least. Pumping is hard work, and it's physically draining. A lot of your fatigue may be relieved just from stopping pumping.

    I think that many of the other issues you describe are school-related and not the norm. Can you make a change to your district, school, or position?
     
  16. isabunny

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    Parenting is so much easier if you and your hubby do it as a team. I have seen parents either hold off on extra curricular activities until the kids grow-up or take turns with the extras. Baby is number one on the list for both of you. With no family to help out, it is so important that baby duties fall on both parents. Seriously important that your husband bonds with his child by performing as many of the child rearing activities as you do. With both of you working full time, it is even more important that those duties are split down the middle, or done together as a couple. You will both be happier in the long run! You might not get to go work out, golf, bike, hike, or have a pedicure, for now, but there is a time and place for everything. Babies grow up so darn fast! Seriously fast! Life gets much easier. It just takes time. Even if you end up being a stay at home Mom, make sure your husband is very involved in all the baby/kid stuff. It creates a closer bond for all of you!
     
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    Thanks for the information. I've been looking on Indeed for Title Company job postings, but there really aren't any here in Georgia listed. I do know that closings have to go through a lawyer. Buying a home is very different in this state, so maybe the Title process is also different? Your job sounded like something I would enjoy. I don't want to teach in the current environment. I have been researching all kinds of careers, but haven't committed to any yet. I do think I would love to be a Library Media Specialist and start grad school, however getting my teaching credential 8 years ago, when there were no jobs available, I am so afraid to jump into college again. I am mostly afraid that there would be no job for me when I finish, again.
     
  18. janlee

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    I totally agree with Caesar 753 in regards to your husband stepping up. If he is uncomfortable with the baby then the cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, and cooking should fall mostly on him. If not then you will find yourself so overwhelmed you won't be able to care for your little one let alone work. a conversation with your husband should happen now, not later. Sorry for being so blunt.
     
  19. Danny'sNanny

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    I feel the same way. I can't quit... We depend on me for insurance.
    But I cried all the way through my afternoon pump today. I don't even have a special every day, so I have to find someone to cover me, find something meaningful my firsties can do without me, find a place to go....
    I'm exhausted and HATE leaving my little man!
     
  20. GeetGeet

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    This won't be at all helpful, so I apologize in advance...
    I don't know why people choose to have children these days. I respect parents, but I can't imagine doing it myself. It just seems soooo overwhelming.
    I'm sure it will get better--so many people do it and make it work. Best of luck to you--I hope you stick with it because it sounds like you're dedicated in so many ways.
     

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