I think I'm going to get in trouble. Do you think I will be able to find another job?

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    Many of us have taught and/or are currently teaching at very rough schools.
     
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    I have people attacking me. I've stopped reading the responses. I dont see "any" compasssion or comprehension just contention. Telling pink she should watch her mouth etc. .

    I believe every teacher wants to believe thy have it rough. I have to smile.
    One lady called me a racist and a classist. I don't have time for this, really. Good luck pink.
     
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    Okay.
     
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    I'm not complaining about my job, but I think it's safe to say that teaching is a very difficult job. I was tossed in without training wheels. It's very difficult. I make mistakes and I try my best not to, but this is the hardest job I've ever had. I'm slowly going insane!
     
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    Bridgebreaker, what is your problem? It seems like you just want to pick fights. I don't think you have any comprehension or compassion.
    No one is telling Pinkcupcake to just watch her mouth. She knows what she said was wrong, we agree, yes, but are also saying that it's really not end of the world, she shouldn't stress so much and she should def. not quit teaching. So I don't know where you get what you said.
     
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    How was today, Pinkcupcake90?
     
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    Today was good. I'm a bit stressed out, but I'm
    Excited that spring break is coming! I've learned something about my sophomores though: they cannot be trusted with treats! I brought them gummy bears for an Emily Dickinson project, and then two of my troublemakers ended up throwing the gummy bears at me. It was anarchy....Lol!
     
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    When I had some rough years at my old school, some of the students did the same to me when I gave them treats for Valentine's Day. Several of my colleagues experienced this as well. The P laughed about it with her buddies.

    At first, I was surprised that this would happen at this school because all of the students lived in low income homes. That said, I initially thought that they would be happy that someone took the time to give them a treat but as you can see, I was mistaken. In contrast to their homes, the one that I grew up in was highly privileged and yet I loved it when teachers took the time to bring us treats or give us other rewards such as field trips. I learned that the students and I simply weren't brought up the same way nor did we share similar values.

    With those classes, I didn't give treats to the whole class from that point on and focused on helping as many students as possible.
     
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    Isn't that awful? My goodness, if our teachers gave us treats and presents, we would kiss the floor she was walking on. This district is tough, so the kids are a bit rough around the edges. Good lord, I need a vacation. :O
     
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    Don't feel bad, Pink. I once had 6 kids crowd me and rip my treat box out of my hand. I don't bring treats anymore. True darkness is being dog-piled by 5th graders for cheese crackers. :frowning:
     
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    I just don't do treats, period. Kids never appreciate the lengths you go to retrieve or make them (after all their parents give them free food every day and they take it for granted, they just assume adults are required to feed them, which they are I guess). Also our district has so many restrictions on what kinds of treats we can use in the classroom, it's not even worth it.
     
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    Manners are funny things. In a lot of cases they are designed to lie to others about how you really feel. It might be an interesting threat to start. Why is it as a society we designed a code that is based in not letting people know our true feelings?

    If you think about giving gifts, sometimes they are appreciated. Sometimes they are not wanted, needed, or liked but done because the person giving wants to give something (or in some cases society dictates they are supposed to do so). Has anyone ever thought about the true motivation for gift giving? How often is it really for the benefit of the other person and how often is it done because you get that "feel good" feeling from doing so?

    None of this is a judgment on anyone here or on what they said. Just pondering since the overarching theme is people getting upset that someone doesn't give the reaction you want from something you chose to do.
     
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    One of the reasons I used to get annoyed / upset was when I did something nice for my students and they didn't appreciate it. So I don't really do it anymore.

    I remember one major situation. I taught world geography as an elective and as the closing activity for each area I would bring them some food from that country. So for Russia I brought in Russian sausage, caviar and bread. And Russian soda. That went so well, the kids were appreciative, and they still talk about how weird or cool the caviar was.
    Then with Mexico a co-teacher brought food and one student actually volunteered and brought a lot for home cooked food.
    But then when I did Hungary, and after then Greece, things started going downhill. I was getting very annoyed, because the classes became a challenge behaviorally and all they would say is "when are you bringing us food again?" I was so annoyed.
    When we finished Greece, I must have spent $50 and cooked all the food myself. brought hummus, pita bread, Greek salad, chicken souvlaki, baklava, etc. Yes, they were appreciative when I brought it, and loved me for it, but I expected them to act the same way when I wasn't bringing food.
    I told my P that I was frustrated, she was sympathetic and told her I do not want to do the food anymore. I also stop teaching the class, but that was because I wasn't supposed to teach it, because I don't have social studies credential.

    If you ever bring in treats, you just have to remember that you want to give and not expect appreciation. Our kids don't always know how to so show gratitude. My students live in such horrible poverty that they appreciate everything they get, but expressing it is another story.
     
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    I completely agree that if you give treats or other privileges to students, you shouldn't expect appreciation in return. Rather, if you are going to give them something you should choose to do it only because you truly want to do it. When I first gave students treats, I wasn't expecting anything in return. However, I also wasn't expecting them to viciously throw the treats at anyone, especially considering that they weren't used to receiving anything nice from anyone. (This behavior happened during some but not all of the years at my old school.) All of those students lived in high poverty, so I was surprised that they would behave in that manner. As a child, I grew up in a home that wouldn't be considered low-income or struggling by any means and yet I wouldn't even think of doing such a thing to a teacher or peer. I would be in deep trouble at home if I were to. Many of my peers came from homes that were a lot more affluent than mine and they wouldn't have ever done this to a teacher either.

    At the school that I'm at now, the parents would be appalled if their kids would be involved in misconduct. None of the students (not even those in SPED classes) throw food at others nor do they vandalize the school or classrooms. Their parents would be appalled if their kids would be involved in that kind of misconduct. That's one of the reasons why we are able to have privileges such as banana split parties, movie/popcorn days, and field trips.
     
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    I think manners are there for a reason. If everyone was just up and rude about everything that was done to be nice, no one would be nice anymore. Which is kind of what's happening to today's society.
     
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    I've regularly brought in treats for my students. Sometimes it has been as a reward, and other times it was just because I made too many cookies and needed to get rid of them. :p

    My students have generally been very appreciative of the treats I've given them. At times their peers needed to remind them to say thank you, but that's been the worst of it. They have always complimented my cooking and baking, which makes me feel like I should do it more often for them--I'm sure that's all part of their clever ruse!

    I would most definitely immediately stop bringing in treats if any kid ever started throwing them at me. That's horrible.
     
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    I also think that doing treats randomly, unexpectedly, even for behavior can work well. One time I was just overjoyed by how great one of my classes was for quite some time. It was in the winter, and I brought them some cupcakes (I remember because it was Christmas themed). Told them it was because I really appreciated how great they had been. They were happy, surprised and showed appreciation, but what was even better, I think they appreciated the recognition of their behavior more than the cupcakes themselves.
    What they really want is the appreciation, not so much the material things, even if it's food. I think if they live in poverty (especially then), somehow material things don't matter so much because they have so little of it, and don't really know how to handle it. It sounds weird and backwards, but I think it's true.

    I've read something about this in the book Framework of Poverty by Ruby Payne. I recommend this book to any educator, but especially those who teach at-risk, inner city or kids in poverty.
    For example it described that those who live in poverty, when they get a large sum of money, they don't save it. If you don't have much, you would think you would put it away for later, right? No. They actually buy food or whatever and / share it amongst themselves, pretty much blowing it right away. But they do this because of reciprocity. They have to share it, because then when the other member of their family / circle gets some money, he is expected to share it as well.
    This was so eye opening, I realized why my ex husband couldn't handle money. It's not he had no common sense, but that he grew up in poverty (single mom, 9 kids) and that's what learned.

    That book is full of stories and concepts like this.
    Why they would throw food, when you would think they'd appreciate it? I don't have the answer, but I'm sure the answer is backwards lol
     

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