I am not tenured, this is my second year teaching. I teach preschool. Last week I was asked to come in for a meeting relating to the "preschool classroom". When I got there I was surprised to find out that one of the aides in my classroom complained about me. I have been trying to work things out with her but I didn't think our working relationship was so poor that she would complain to the principal and I'd be called in for a meeting. Before the meeting: Basically, when I tell my aide what strategies she should be using to support her students in my classroom she becomes visibly uncomfortable and upset. I always try to say it in the most kind way possible and need to be able to openly communicate with my aide. I really like her as a person and she does a good job when she is following my instructions. Sometimes she decides to use different strategies that I do not feel work as well, does not communicate important information to me, and interrupts when I am speaking to parents (or talks to parents of students that are not her responsibility without me there). I have been doing my best to take the high road, and pick my battles. The biggest issue is that she was spending special periods, entire periods, talking with other aides instead of supporting her students. Any time another adult came in my room she would sit to the side and talk to them. This I had to bring up immediately. When I pulled her aside to speak privately I explained how important it is to stay with and support students during specials and when in class. I told her I understand we all have busy lives and it is okay to take a minute or two to talk but then we have to get back to our students who need us so much. Even though I could tell she was upset all she said was okay with a huge smile on her face. I asked her if there was anything she wanted to talk about and she said no and practically ran out of the room to join the class in art. At the meeting I shared this situation and it didn't seem like my aide had told the principal about this. Unfortunately, another aide had complained about me before her. This aide was covering my current aide on medical leave. She and I did not get along and I wish I had gone to the principal about it earlier. She would openly yell at me in front of my students that "she has 9 years experience she knows what she's doing" when I would try to talk to her about strategies to use with her students. At the meeting: The big issue seemed to be that my aide feels "left out". She didn't make it into a project that I displayed. This is an honest mistake. She's not listed in the class photo because she was on medical leave. I didn't know it was my responsibility to make sure the aide's name was accounted for on the class photo. Another honest mistake. I tried to remain calm although I was very upset. I explained that I never want anyone to feel left out when they are in my classroom and that I would do my best to fix it. At first I wanted to talk to her privately but emailed later to ask for the guidance counselor to be part of the conversation (this had been suggested to me at the meeting). Am I going to be fired over this? What steps should I take to fix this?