Dear All, I love the book Have You Filled A Bucket Lately, A Child's Guide to Daily Happiness. I know kids need something concrete to hang abstract ideas on, so I even think it would be cool to buy buckets (say, at Target Dollar Spot) to have kids fill. However, here's what happened last year: - Secret Bucket Fillers! Each kid got the name of another kid whose bucket they would secretly fill. It had to be free and from the heart. At the end of a few days, we revealed who had whom. For some, it worked as planned. For others, though: - "My bucket didn't get filled!" - "What!? I was sooooooo nice to you, I walked you to the cafeteria..." - "Oh." - Two unhappy kids.... one for not feeling filled and the other for not being appreciated/recognized. What is the deal. Some people genuinely have big leaks in their buckets and all goodness just seeps out the hole and they need more More MORE. THen I did "Compliments," during morning meeting. Everyone had three teddy bear math counters and had to give one along with a compliment to three other kids. Some kids are just not going to get many compliments, while others rack up a pile. I put the onus on the group at the end of the year, after they knew each other and the process very well, to make sure everyone ended up with three bears. Then the perpetually empty children complained that they got lame compliments (You are creative, seemed lame to one girl). Thoughts?