Ever have something you really want to say to a coworker but can't?

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  1. Caesar753

    Caesar753 Multitudinous

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    There is a new person at my school this year. She is difficult to work with.

    After some things today, here's what I'd like to say to her:

    Okay. You win. You clearly know everything about everything. All your ideas are wonderful and perfect. I now know that when you come to me for "advice" or "ideas", what you really want is for me to repeat your ideas; I will not offer suggestions because it makes you angry. When you come to me with problems, I will agree with you and tell you that you are perfect and there is no possible way to resolve your problems; I will not offer suggestions. I don't know how our department managed to survive these past seven years without you. I understand that when you are angry with me, you will stomp away like a child; this is a reasonable reaction from an adult. I also understand that when you are angry with a coworker, you will tattle and request (and receive) a policy change which will result in the extreme inconvenience of everyone in the department; this is also reasonable. You are the greatest teacher ever. Your use of Disney movies in the classroom on a daily basis is ground-breaking. I also appreciate all the delightful hacking and throat-clearing noises you make 20-30 times per class period that I can hear through the walls; my students also appreciate this. It's like sweet, sweet music. Finally, I definitely appreciate how you pulled the fire alarm in your classroom on a cold day "just to see if it worked". You are truly an inspiration.


    Okay, that might be a little sarcastic.

    Obviously I won't say these things to my coworker, however much I want to.

    Do you have anything you really want to say but just can't? Feel free to share it here. No judgment. :cool:
     
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  3. comaba

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    Assuming that you aren't the only person who feels this way, if you'd like, I will print this out and mail it to her anonymously. Then maybe she'll waste all her energy on trying to figure out who has relatives in Illinois, instead of annoying you and others. ;)
     
  4. comaba

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    Best vent ever, by the way.
     
  5. Caesar753

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    :lol:

    It felt good to get all that stuff off my chest. I really am (I think) a kind, helpful person at school. I would never, ever, ever say these things in person. It's just that I'm so frustrated with this person and I have to work closely with her. Sigh.
     
  6. JustMe

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    Sweet, sweet music...LOL! :)

    Yes, I have a bit bottled up inside. Some people are incapable of receiving certain messages and there truly is no point in trying to share. It's hard to even feel personal relief when you know your words didn't sink in...thus the bottling.

    She's sounds awesome, for the record.
     
  7. terptoteacher

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    She really pulled the alarm?
     
  8. Caesar753

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    Yes. I saw the principal going to her room after the alarm stopped. Later in the day she told our department at a meeting that she did it because she wanted to see if it really worked.
     
  9. giraffe326

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    She sounds like a peach.
    I actually thought you were describing my very-soon-to-be-former teammate for the first few sentences!

    As for me, I'd like to tell half the staff, "When P is making a blanket statement about rules, SHE IS TALKING ABOUT YOU!!!!!
     
  10. giraffe326

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    Was she reprimanded? Wasting the fire department's resources should be a fairly big deal, I'd think.
     
  11. MikeTeachesMath

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    I laughed so much harder than I should have...
     
  12. Caesar753

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    Unfortunately, no. She has done an amazing job of pulling the wool over almost everyone's eyes.
     
  13. Peregrin5

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    The fire alarm bit killed me also. xD
     
  14. MrsC

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    I could certainly have written some of what you did, Caesar--although I'm maybe not quite so frustrated with my colleague after reading about yours.

    Here's mine:
    "The best way to help the kids is to stop having meetings about them and get into the classroom and actually spend some time with them!"
     
  15. MissCeliaB

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    That's crazy! Most places have criminal penalties, including fines and jail time, for false fire alarms. She should have been reprimanded by the principal, at least.
     
  16. Curiouscat

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    I work with an obnoxious woman who is sooooooo loud! My students shut the door constantly because she is so annoying. She seems to think that the louder you talk the better the students learn. She delights in yelling at children for the least little infraction.

    Last week I had no choice but to ask her to keep my eye on my class for about ten minutes while I dealt with an emergency. When I returned I could hear her yelling and threatening my class before I came around the corner. Shen then gave me a five minute rundown on how bad they were and how she had to threaten them.

    One of my special needs students burped and said excuse me. She made him change his color for being rude and for talking! Of course, I changed it back immediately.

    The most annoying thing is when she catches wind that an admin is around she turns on the sugar!!! Makes me want to throw up!
     
  17. Cerek

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    :spitwater:

    That one made me actually laugh out loud. :lol:
     
  18. Chrissteeena

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    That was awesome.

    My job is a bit different so most of the things I've wanted to say, I've began to say to everyone who I need to say them too.
     
  19. Peachyness

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    Dude, send it! Life's too short! :p

    I sent an email to someone saying exactly what was on my mind (in a very polite and eloquent manner...). I feel good to have gotten that off my chest. Try it! :D
     
  20. catnfiddle

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    I'm far too restrained to be that blunt with co-irker (as opposed to co-worker) issues, to the point that I can't even let loose on this thread. I think I verbally snapped once and made a particular co-irker cry, and I felt relieved and terrible at the same time. Nope, can't do it.
     
  21. TeacherGroupie

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    Sometimes tears are the beginning of wisdom, cat. In any case, lots of hugs.
     

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