I have a student that is just desperate for attention - new baby at home, plus now Mom is working full time, so he is at school for about 10 hours a day with before and after care. He gets no help with homework - even to the point where he fills out his own book logs, but no one will sign them. I know that they are busy. I know that the Mom is stressed. But he is so desperate for someone to listen to what he is saying, for some attention... and as much as I try and give him, he's sharing me with 15 other kids... He calls out ALL THE TIME, and I needed an easy way to get that under control. So I started giving him tallies on a post it note every time he called out. If he gets less than 5, he gets a sticker at the end of the day. Nothing fancy, but it put a number to things, and really was helping. He is earning a sticker 3 to 4 days a week now. Well, Mom just decided that if he doesn't earn a sticker, he loses his entire recess the next day. Didn't ask me, didn't discuss it with me (even though I have had 2 conferences with her in the last two weeks). Sitting out of recess is NOT an appropriate consequence for this kid - he NEEDS that unstructured active time. I almost NEVER take a whole recess - a few minutes here and there, but not the whole thing. I wanted this to be a positive system, not a negative one, but now that she has told the child that this is the way it is going to be, I don't feel like I can go back on what she decided. Grrrrrrrrrrr... So I guess I need to call Mom again. I just wish she would have brought this up at our conference, instead of emailing me a few hours later. Then I could have explained what I didn't like about the plan, offered some alternatives, before she laid it down for her child.