Aging Parents

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  1. Ms. I

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    2 days ago, I visited my parents & helped my Mom do a TON of work around the house! Their whole 1st floor is now decluttered, new rugs my Mom bought put down, tables cleaned, carpet swept, etc.

    My parents now have that lifting apparatus to move my Dad to/from his bed to his wheelchair, so that helps a lot. A nurse & a home health aide come over quite regularly too. My Mom was told that if my Dad lives past a certain date in Jan, he'll be taken out the hospice category & the current equipment they have (bed, wheelchair, etc. will have to be switched out because Medi-Care or something similar will start taking over w/ coverage.

    Something that really impressed my Mom & I the other day was when I was visiting my parents. My Mom & I were talking, just having a regular conversation. My Dad was watching TV behind us & suddenly, my Dad interjects & says something that we were talking about. That of course means he was listening & following what we had been saying, even though the TV was on, etc.! Pretty good alertness & listening still for someone w/ dementia!
     
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    Ms I...I thought of this thread today. My mom is not eating or drinking anymore, on oxygen and taking morphine every two hours. We were told now is the time to see her...her window of time is about a week or less. Love your dad and see him as often as you can. I will be spending as much time as I can with mom and hope to be with her when she passes. She may be in heaven with my dad this Christmas.
     
  3. Missy

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    I'm so sorry, kinderkids. What a difficult time; your family will be in my thoughts.
     
  4. teacherintexas

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    Hugs Kinder.
     
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    Difficult time Kinderkids. I went through this two years ago with my mom. It's so hard, but good you are there for her as best you can be.
     
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    Thank you Missy, teachtex and Grammy. I apologize that I took away from Ms I's thread. Not my intention. Just wanted to remind her to spend time with her dad as much as possible. It will be a tough holiday season for my entire family. I hope Ms I. cherishes this time of year with her dad and mom.
     
  7. Ms. I

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    kinderkids, I'm sorry about your mom not eating/drinking. As you said to me earlier in this thread, my thoughts & prayers are w/ you as well. Of course, we know our parents can't live forever, but we always just hope it's "longer, longer". I wish you joy & peace during this holiday season w/ your mom. It's nice that we're all praying for each other!
     
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    Awe Kinder.... so tough anyway & tougher around holidays.... We lost my oldest & last Gpa after the holidays...It was still tough!!! Hugs to you all!!!
     
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    :hugs: kinderkids
     
  10. LouiseB

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    My husband lost both of his parents to cancer within the past 4 months. His father was in hospice for less than a week and died in August. Then shortly after that his mother was diagnosed with cancer and died exactly 6 weeks after his father. It was a trying time for our family.
     
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    Oh Louise that is tough.... The Gpa I referred to we lost in Jan & my gma (his wife) passed beginning of fall! It was tough...my last biological Gparents.
     
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    Tomorrow is my mom's funeral. I know it will be a celebration of the wonderful woman she was. I will miss her tremendously.
     
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    My condolences, Kinder.
     
  14. LouiseB

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    Thinking of you and your family.
     
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    My sympathy Kinderkids. Be thinking of you.
     
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    I visited my parents today & will visit them on Christmas Day w/ my BF. My Dad's legs are both so bent. They say a characteristic of demetia is that the person will get into a fetal position & my Dad is surely in that position.

    My Dad slept a lot today, but the next time I'm alone w/ my Dad again, I want to express what an excellent father he's been & how much I appreciate him.

    What a tremendously difficult time your family went through!

    I'm so very sorry kinderkids. May God comfort you at this time.
     
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    My deepest sympathies, kinderkids.
     
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    Hugs Kinder.....
     
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    So sorry, kinder. Your family is in my thoughts.
     
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    Kinder, I'm so sorry! I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers.
     

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