*Warning* This is a bit of a lengthy post. I think maybe early childhood educators might have more experience with students like this. I graduated with an education degree for middle school, but I dropped from the internship due to my autism making it nearly impossible for me to keep up with the curriculum, so I am a graduate student for software engineering. However, I teach at a daycare center while I go to graduate school. I work with kids as young as babies during the day, and after school I pick up kids on the bus. The first two weeks the class was just really out of control and I had to have a couple meetings and come up with some rules and expectations with them to get order going, and for the most part everything seems to be going smooth, except for one child. This kid argues and challenges everything you ask him to do no matter how minor, and when I'm doing a lab or an activity for them I specifically state to wait until the end for questions, and he interrupts me every 5 seconds to ask questions anyway. He bullies other kids, one kid specifically gets bullied by him every day. He's a 7 year old boy, and she is a 5 year old girl. I found out from management that his teachers in school tell them that he changes the entire dynamic of the classroom and makes their job more difficult. I haven't been able to do a lot of projects with the group I'd like to, because I know I won't get through it in the little time we have having to yell at him every few minutes, and sometimes it has to be a day when his dad picks him up early before we can do a more complex fun activity as a group. During holiday break, it was just unbearable dealing with him. He was throwing tantrums and fits, hitting me, etc. One day there was a 5 year old girl who brought in a journal to write in that she just got as a Christmas present, and he scribbled in it and tore it up, and when I asked him why he did that, he responded that he thought it was the girl's that he bullies, and he was doing it because he hates her. When I told him his consequence was going to be missing the movie the class was watching and going to another room, he went off and threw a fit around the whole daycare center and had to be restrained. Earlier this week, we were doing a lab activity, and another kid was teasing when he had vinegar on his hands saying he was going to touch him with it, so he picked up a chair and threw it across the room. I told him and the kid that started it that they were out of the lab and were going to sit at the silent table, and he started to scream, cry, throw a fit, hit me, etc. The director had to call his father, and his father got here and was blaming the whole thing on us, saying that his kid threw the chair because he was likely being threatened and cornered, which was not happening at all, and he said everyone is always against his kid and blaming all the problems on him and not the kids starting it, and we reminded him that the other kid had the same consequence as well. He was going off insulting our director, and she asked him to leave, and me about twice his size got in front of him and told him he needed to leave as well. He was saying maybe the problem is the teachers here, and I said, "No, maybe the problem really is like father, like son." After that, the director told me to go somewhere else for a few minutes. She called the father's ex-wife and explained the situation, and said that the next incident would be the last straw, so there was a clear final warning. I really just don't know what to do really. A person from the childcare department near here was talking to me about the incident and suggesting maybe trying to give him more responsibility. He offers to sweep the patio out on the playground sometimes because I give him reward tickets that they use to redeem on prize day when we have it, so that's one things that works. However, the real problem is that he never takes an ounce of ownership for anything he has done. It's never his fault to him, and it's never fair if there is a negative consequence to his behavior. I don't hate this kid, but I think part of another problem is we may be the wrong daycare center for him. The issue is we only have 13 kids total in the after school program, and never are all 13 there on the same day. So, we don't really have the staff to do separate activities and clubs the way other daycare centers do. The other problem is, the issue the child has are going to take awhile to be fixed, so he is going to get kicked out within the next few weeks I can almost be sure of. I think if he gets the right help from a professional he can start over at a new place that is more engaging and has more activities to choose from, but he is going to have some problems there to in the beginning, but maybe it will be different if he isn't on his last straw like he is with us. I care enough because I dealt with anger issues more in a different form when I was his age, and I don't really want him to deal with the trauma of being dis-enrolled from a program in dramatic fashion, but I'm not sure anything I can do can help fix things before he gets kicked out. I've been able to be civil with his dad for the most part, except for a couple days ago when we had an argument, and I heard he called to apologize, so I don't know if there is any way he'd listen to me if I made a suggestion to him that some other places might be a better fit to his son, because the staff there don't like either of them for the most part and it's going to very hard for them to be patient and understanding from here on forward, and I can't really plan any activities all the kids are going to enjoy and be engaged in, because they are very different people, and not enough of a group to separate groups based on hobbies. Or, the other option, should I just be completely not involved in giving any parenting advice to his father and wait for him to inevitably get kicked out? Our management is very down to earth and humorous about it, and even were making jokes saying I'm probably going to end up as the daycare center bouncer given I'm about 3 times the size of most parents and almost threw him out the door.